2007-04-04 23:45:44 · 22 answers · asked by 123 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is already your husband and doesn't know if you are a virgin or not then your sex life must be horrible. You should start your relationship off with honesty.
2007-04-04 23:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by notyours 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its a common misconception that a man can tell if a woman is a virgin or not just by penetrating her. this is false as all womens vaginas are built differently. some are small by nature no matter how many times the woman has had sex and others are "roomy" (lol) without ever having sex. The only way to conclusively tell if a woman is a virgin is with a medical check up and then of course there are numerous reasons as to why she doesnt happen to have her hymen intact...such as sports, an injury, and the fact that some women have a very elastic hymen.
If you cant tell your husband that your not a virgin due to fear then that should tell you that you see something in your husband that should be feared...not a good sign. If you think he will just not understand then dont mention it unless you have no alternative. If you choose to lie about it then you must be prepared to live with the consequences of that lie....provided of course, that he can prove your lying. Like I said, its nearly impossible to prove.
2007-04-04 23:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by coolred38 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures and religions, virginity is highly prized, or even demanded of a bride. I can understand your worry, but you have made a mistake if you have told your future husband that you are virgin. Your marriage will be based on a lie that you have to live with the rest of your life. If you find the man who is right for you, you should not have to worry about this, he should accept you as you are.
If you live in one of those sick societies where your safety is at issue about your virginity, you could consider surgery. There are surgeons, even in the U.S. who can restore the appearance of your hymen and help you with a deception.
There are exercises to tighten your vaginal muscles so that you will feel tight to your husband when he penetrates you for the first time. When you urinate, practice squeezing to stop the flow. These are the muscles that also constrict around your vagina.
Squeeze these muscles from time to time all day long. They will develop strength. When time comes for your first time having sex, squeeze these muscles when he tries to enter you. Then after a few moments, relax them so he can slip in easily.
He will think he has broken your hymen then, if you do it right.
2007-04-05 00:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't impossible. Not all women have a lot of bleeding or pain the first time. I didn't. But really- do you think it is a good idea to start your marriage off with deception? You both should be open about your sexual past- you are spending the rest of your lives together, have you considered that you will have to maintain this lie for the next 40 years or so? If you truly love each other, you need to be honest.
2007-04-04 23:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by biogirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can lie to your husband, and he would be none the wiser, but this is not a good base for your relationship. There really is no way physically to tell if you are a virgin.
2007-04-05 01:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by lucianna_0317 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a few teaspoons of water that has red dye in it and using a syringe without the needle squirt this inside your p_ssy before sex, then act like there is pressure at one point as he goes deep and push back and then relax and groan in pain and then the fluid will come out and it will look like watered down blood on the sheets.
2007-04-05 04:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a good basis for a marriage, especially of you've told him that you are a virgin. Im sorry but there is no way to hide it. Best if you come clean.
2007-04-04 23:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be honest with your husband. Otherwise if he finds out himself both of you might have a big quarrel over this. If he really loves you, he wouldn't mind you being not a virgin.
2007-04-04 23:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell if you're a virgin or not. Even a gynecologist can't tell whether a woman is a virgin or not unless she has been pregnant. It is possible because there are no "outward" signs that a woman is not a virgin. The only way your husband would know you were not a virgin is if you told him.
2007-04-04 23:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would you even want to hide the fact that you're not a virgin? This is not the 1800's!
2007-04-05 01:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lila 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋