I'm 16 and my boyfriend (17) and i just started having sex it hurt alot the 1st time and for a while after, it still hurts alot at the start but after our 4th time ive been hurting alot on and off for the past few of days (2day is 3 days later), its kind of a sharp pain, and i feel kind of tighter. The pain comes at random times, but when i was at a dance class it was very painfull.
we use condoms and we are each others 1st sexual partner.
whats causing all this pain?
2007-04-04 23:10:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Visit a doctor.
2007-04-04 23:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by chr_met 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons are:
1. Maybe you're not comfortable making love with your boyfriend yet, since you just started to have sex. You need to have proper foreplay for you to get wet because the constant pumping causes lacerations if you're not wet.
2. Maybe your positions are wrong. If you're not in the right position it will really hurt so try to guide your bf with the positions, don't just lie there and pretend everything is fine. You'll know that the position is right coz it feels good and it doesnt hurt. Try to read magazines with different sexual positions, it will give you an idea to do the right positions.
3. Maybe you're cervix are swollen. One cause for this one is that your allergic to latex condoms. You should go see a doctor before the infection starts to spread.
I hope this will help. :)
2007-04-12 20:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by alexynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could just be that you are sore from having alot of intercourse right off the get go.... or you are still very scared and not relaxing which could cause tears down there. Try a hot bath, and then put some ice there with a washcloth over your privates so the ice isn't right on them, to see if that feels better.....You could also be having a reaction to the latex on the condoms......or lubricant, there are a number of things.... If it continues go to a clinic
2007-04-11 16:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by concerned mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's possibly being too rough or your just not lubricated enough. Try more foreplay til YOU are ready and tell him to be gentle. For now, stick to missionary position. Don't try to do all those advanced positions when you don't know what they feel like yet. That's probably why your hurting. If the pain still persists you should see your doctor. There could be something deeper going on. Just take your time and be careful.
2007-04-12 21:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by evadiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure you know wat a hymen is? maybe when you guys had intercourse for the 1st time, your hymen broke but not completely. some women have very tough hymens. the hymen is just a fibrous tissue that is the determinant of virginity. some women are born w/o it, but thats a very small percent. if yours was really thick and hard, and when you had intercourse it tore, maybe it tore in a wrong way or something and it just needs time to heal. but since you wont let it heal (by having sex) it'll keep hurting. dancing will def aggravate it because your using your pelvic muscles when you dance and any strain in that region will make it worse. i highly recommend you visiting a gynacologist. because if it isnt the hymen problem, you may have caught something or have some time of inflammatory disease. hope this helped =) and pls practice safe sex!!
2007-04-12 22:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by GooBeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have an allergy or sensitivity to the latex in the condoms or spermacide if you are using condoms that come with it. I had this problem. try giving it a rest for a few days then trying a different brand. One thing though....non latex condoms are not as reliable at preventing disease as latex ones. Your best bet is to use a backup method of birth control as well as the condoms too.
2007-04-12 22:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by angeldolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need more lubrication. The drier you are, the more painful it will be, as well as possible chaffing. If the pain is internal, perhaps he's a big large and hitting your cervix, or you could have an ovarian cyst. I'm happy to hear you are using condoms. Please also check to see if the condom is latex. Some people are allergic to it.
Hope that helps.
2007-04-04 23:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by MystiSaint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor. I've heard of cases where a married couple was using the wrong orifice (I'm not making this up). Once the doctor showed them what they were doing wrong, the pain was gone. I don't know if that's your problem, but to be on the safe side you really need to see a physician to find out what is going on. Best wishes.
2007-04-04 23:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely agree with them, it is important that you go see your gynaecologist, or even just your paediatrician. If I were you I'd tell my mom, I don't know her but most moms would rather find out there's a problem when they can help with it rather then afterwards. She would probably be glad you came to her. If you don't want to tell your mom, you should still go to the doctor though. doctors will let you in alone and in confidentiality as far as I know.
2007-04-04 23:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does ur mom know??? if she doesn't k u just tell about it !! and if she doesn't k just tell her u need 2 talk 2 her and tell her all about it!! i think shes going 2 understand u !! or have u told ur boyfriend about it and I'm glad ur guys r using condoms that's a good thing!!
2007-04-10 11:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by ELSY M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of might not performing the correct ways of intercourse... some married couple also got this problem... if still not to sure, pls consult doctor or look up at some health books, they will gives you some references...
Good Luck.. and luckily both are using protection...
2007-04-10 01:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋