our marriage was love marriage, six years back, he is going U.S. for long period from office. does't want me to come along. fight with me everyday on small things. should i go for divorce. I am worried about my doughter. don't want to do unjustice to her. she is too small to understand all these. may be he wanted to marry someone (who is earning) in U.S. to settle down. I am not working , he is earning good and fight me for money. never give me money for myself. I am very upset what should i do? I am fed up from all these
2007-04-04 20:14:59 · 11 answers · asked by nicky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you give him divorce now on the basis of mental cruelty what maximum you will achieve is a sum of money as Alimony, but do you think it will be sufficient for you for rest of you life, with a small daughter with you ? But what your husband will achieve will be freedom from you for getting married again with some one in U.S. Now tell me if he gets this in his life goal will be achieved to settle down in U.S. you want to suffer through out your life here in India & allow him to enjoy in U.S. getting married to a U.S. citizen? Write to me for any clarification if you want.
2007-04-06 02:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was verbally abusive and demanded total obedience. I thought I could stick it out until my 2 daughters were out of school. But after almost 20 years of being told I was Fat, Ugly and would never amount to anything (which after time I started to believe) and at the same time accused me of having an afair (which was impossible as he kept track of my every move) I finally left. My girls were 15 and 14. They stayed with their father and hated me.
That was 2 years ago now my oldest has moved in with her grandmother (my mom) and calls me all the time which her father and sister wouldn't let her do. Her sister is still with her father and still hates me because she believes her dad.
What I am trying to say is GET OUT! There are places you can go and people who can help you. Eventually your daughter will understand and may even be better for it.
2007-04-04 20:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by LJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way for you is to file a divorce now itself and ask for heafty compensation and after that you could lead your own life. If you delay you may lose every thing and even unable to get compensation as he may leavy charges of extra relationship/affairs against you.
Dont lose your sense, either he may come back to your fold or he would give the desired compensation. You can start a fresh life after that.
2007-04-04 21:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy in your relationship find out what the source of the problem and work towards fixing that problem...I know that it is not easy to be in this type of situation, however I also think that divorce is not an option...hang in there God will lead you through this difficult time
2007-04-04 20:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
#1. It is not your fault.
#2. See a lawyer. Don't worry about hurting him or taking away from him. He already is from you.
#3. See a lawyer and realize YOUR rights. As long as YOU are a good parent, your kids will not suffer as much as you think. Look out for yourself and them in the process.
2007-04-04 20:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is clear he is no more interested in you and he wants to drive you out of his wedlock with you.
Better leave him but don't leave him w/o adequate compensation for you and your daughter to live for life,as you have no source of earning for a living.
You can file a legal case of wife abuse ,torture etc and go to the extent of stalling his travel plan abroad ,till he settles adequate compensation for you and your daughter.
2007-04-04 20:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by NQS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. You won't be doing your daughter a favour by raising her in a home where there is no love and only fighting.
2007-04-04 20:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You will hurt your daughter more in the long run if you don't put her in a healthy environment. You need to be happy before you can make anyone else happy...including your daughter.
2007-04-04 20:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by julesnsybil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce sounds like a good option the way you are describing it he proably has a girlfriend and you could be getting VD or AIDS virus from him
2007-04-04 20:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM!
Don't teach your daughter that its OK to be abused and tolerate such behavior.
2007-04-04 20:19:56 · answer #10 · answered by Skinny Blonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋