...honestly, there are a few good men like me (ahem) one of my friends is dating a single mum and when I ask him the reason, he says "she is LESS likely to dump him" so he's in a more, secure position. The only thing he grumbles well these women are a tad bit POSSESSIVE especially when they don't earn that well.
2007-04-04 20:14:02 · 11 answers · asked by dictator_cool 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did have a college crush and now she's become a "single Mum" I had feelings for her when I was sort of not that wise to the ways of women.
Back then, when she was in her teens and popular she wouldn't even notice me. But now, well she just invited me over for lunch at her home!
2007-04-04 20:16:08 · update #1
some are some are not there are many reasons why they are single mothers and the good girls get caught because of their innocence and ignorance
as far as going for lunch with this woman well its the middle of the day it sounds like she just wants the company and she likes you
try and not make assumtions and genralisie
2007-04-04 20:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mum and don't want a boyfriend. However, being a single mum can be very lonely and isolating. Stuck at home with a baby, no means of having a break. She's probably not been out for lunch since before she had the baby. Of course she needs to go out in the day time so she can take the baby with her, otherwise she'll need to find a baby sitter. She probably found that once she became a mum she lost a lot of her friends, as they used all go out together and now she can't join in with them. She can't get a date because they all think like you do - that she just wants them for a meal ticket.
She probably just wants someone to have a laugh with and cheer her up. There's no need to take things any further than you want. Just be a friend and get to know her a bit better before judging her.
Good luck.
2007-04-04 20:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Spottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mum to two boys, and believe me I'm no easy target, I was the one who walked out on the marriage (for very good reasons, but not someone else).
My ex stopped working so that he wouldn't have to pay maintainance and I work full time and support my kids financially and emotionally, he claims benefits and sits around all day. The kids won't see or talk to him and he wonders why!
Nobody is using me mate I can assure you of that if anything its the other way round.
2007-04-04 21:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single Mum and No, I'm not lonely"have lots of friends",I am also financially stable "Yes I work",I don't go around looking for Men for company"Have got lots of Male friends".
So if you want to stereotype single Mums, you go for it Dude,
Just hope you don't miss out on a whole bunch of women that are strong,unselfish,independant and know"THEIR OWN BLOODY MIND".
And wouldn't dream off letting a Man use them "Been there before Right!".
And as for not being dumped !!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-04 22:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really disagree with your point. women re different as men. some have low self esteem, some high. i have high. i had 3 kids, dumped my husband, was single mom WITH NOT ONE, BUT 3 CHILDREN and i tell u what - u haven't seen pickier woman than me. and still i had plenty of dates and i never was dumped. ever. can u imagine? and the ones who were insecure were those men. posessive too. and they all wanted to be either in permanent relationships with me or get marreid. not me thou. i was on a quest for the most perfect man ever, and also i know 3 children is very challenging and very expensive i was on a quest for wealthy man. and i have found one. he is the absolute prefection. handsome too. so i can't still believe why the heck did he need a woman with 3 kids, cos he could have found much younger one without children easily. he says he fell in love. and i didn't also earn well at all. so my point is - a good woman is a good woman, kids or no kids, posessive , insecure woman is still posessive and insecure even if she doesn't have kids.
2007-04-04 21:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by 111 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but were you really at college?
Your question sounds more like something i would expect from a seventeen year old.
Having been extremely rude to you, I will now say that people come in all shades of neediness.
Single Mums are probably more nurturing than ladies who have no kids to defend and protect.
2007-04-04 21:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a relationship with a single mum gave her and her daughter a much better life.another 2 kids and 5 years of marriage after she had spent everything we had and more she dumped me and told her parents a load of lies to get set up in another house leaving me with debts and my clothes in a bag.
learned a hard lesson don't marry someone who is in a position to use you.no matter how good your relationship seems.
2007-04-04 23:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by blownover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go........ignore her like she ignored you....She's looking for a meal ticket..
2007-04-04 20:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he found a meal ticket pal common sence . my opion?
2007-04-04 20:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure whose using who?
2007-04-04 20:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋