Most of my feeling for my husband have gone. When we were dating I love you to death then things turn bad in the end but we got married bcus I was pregnant. I hope we would start over again but our marriage made me miserable. He loves his family more than me but I wouldn't mind if we live separately. I have no privacy wit his family, his parents and younger sis still take control of him, they even tried to control me too but I showed them I didn't like it. Our sex life make me feel I'm a sex machine. He doesn't want to touch me but ask me to make you satisfy. Last time, he came to bedroom suddenly and pulled my pants down. I promised myself not to let him touch me again. I'm at my mom's wit my 6 months daughter, I told him everything, he afraid that I won;t take his daughter back but I told him, I promised to bring her back then I will but you have to promise me never touch me again" he promised. I took off once but can't stand seeing them apart (husband and daughter)
thanks
2007-04-04 19:46:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What can i say:
Answer:You should leave him
2007-04-04 19:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by maki" The time begins Now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is not good enough a reason to get married, but I could understand when it comes to different ethic values.
What makes you feel that he loves his family than you? Communicate this to him and let him know clearly what you had actually expected him to do in whichever scenario. Let him know also, of your discomfort in staying with his family. Have a detail discussion how both of you can resolve this issue, either by him talking to his family or literally getting a place of your own.
As for sex, you will have to iron it out with him. A wife is not a "conveniece-store" where he could walk in as and when he likes. Perhaps he likes a submissive woman, but if you're not, let him know that you mean it. A counsellor will also be helpful to convey messages to him which he may not accept if you are the one to say it.
Separating daughter and father is tough, I know you do not feel good. But bare minimum, there should be some form of respect for his wife and her body. Moreover, he is promising you only for the sake of his daughter, not that he respects you and your body any much more.
2007-04-05 03:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by ET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it gets to the point you can't stand him to touch you,it is pretty much over.But don't be surprise if you start to slowly get your feelings back you once had for him.If he can keep his promise to you and not touch you it could happen.One thing you can't sleep in the same bed if you do he will attack you,make no mistake about it he will think he has the right because you are his wife.Another thing be very careful of his family if he does something to you that makes you want to leave him again him and his family won't let you take that baby out of the house if that happens you will have a very hard time getting that baby back in your arms.Remember he has his family telling him what to do so be careful.
2007-04-05 03:16:09 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raechel, you are missing a few vital factors inyour relationship. Communications is the big one--you have got to have communications with each other all the time--not after a problem arises. He is torn between you and the family--that is sad--they won't let him grow up and move on to his family--he lacks the conviction to move on. Forced into marriage is a bad way to enter a relationship---you and he have a daughter so it is important for him to contribute and offer support--not hide with mom and the sister. Sex is for mature caring respectful adults--it wasn't that way before and it still isn't. I don't know what to tell you---you need to work this out. The sex issue is nothing--it just adds to the stress....you owe him nothing until he sits and realizes that you and he are a family and should act like one. He needs to grow up. You need to be strong and clearly state your case about this.,again--communications !!
2007-04-05 02:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you still can. ANy man that thinks he can just come in and take what he wants only views you as property. Your daughte and you will both be better off not living with him. Seperate, get counseling and if he isn't willing to change his ways drastically you should leave and not look back. He can still be a father to your daughter and see her, let your lawyer work out a custody arrangement that fits you both. There is not reason you should stay with someone that makes you miserable and views you as property. He won't change unless he wants to. And I am 99% sure that he won't change his interaction with his family and that will always be a problem. Worry about yourself and your daughter. He controls his own actions, and you deserve better.
2007-04-05 02:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by famurattla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen very carefully...staying with the other parent just for the child is the utmost worst thing that you can ever do. The child is going to grow up in a loveless household! Do you really want your daughter to live like you are living when she gets older? If you dont then you need to get out of there and get out of there fast... dont make this harder on your daughter and yourself than it has to be
2007-04-05 02:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound like the poster child for not getting married!
Do yourself a favor give the kid back to her real family & go get some real help!
Sorry about the spades delivery but you are a real piece of work! Grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 02:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by ☆♥•´`•.¸ ;-) •´`•.¸ ♥☆ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WILL IS HE A GOOD FATHER? and YOU SHOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WENT TO DO JUST BECAUSE YOU GET MARRIED THAT DOESN'T MEAN NOW YOU HAVE A FREE AND UNLIMITED PUSSY PASS NO. AND HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT AND RESPECT YOUR WISH BUT YOU NEED TO BE STRONG AND STAY AWAY FOR AT LEST A LITTLE LONGER I THINK. AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU WANTING HIM IN HER LIFE BUT DON'T LET HER BE THE ONE WHO GETS HURT IN ALL THIS BECAUSE OF THE AUDITS CANT SEE EYE TO EYE
2007-04-05 02:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by m_moore212000@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce already. Do you really want to raise your daughter in the same house as the moron you married?
2007-04-05 03:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u need to talk with him like before(when u fall in love),but it is really hard to change something.Be kind to yourself,and good luck !
2007-04-05 02:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by lee m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋