I just started a new job a couple of weeks ago. An employee named Tammy started talking to me: At first I thought this was great I made a friend already. Well, to make a long story short. She started telling me about her life, that she is living with a guy named Mark. and she found out he is still talking to his ex-wife(she said alot of nasty things about this lady). The more I listened the more upset I became, when I realized that I knew Mark and his ex-wife. The more I listened to her, the more upset I became. I knew she was the one that caused the"ex" so much grief. I also knew something that she didn't....Mark was still seeing his Ex-wife. I didn't say anthing to her, I
just walked out....Now my delema, Mark's ex-wife was recently told she has a life-threating condition and I don't want to upset her. But i feel she needs to know. He has never left her alone since the split. And she thinks they are trying to work things out. She has no idea about Tammy....Tell her or Not?
2007-04-04 19:40:16 · 6 answers · asked by wildfire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More info: I have known Mark's ex for 25yrs. What Tammy was saying about her was so untrue. I guess that's why it upsets me so. I also know that, Mark is a womonizer and a cheat. That he could do something like this...It is so wrong. The bad thing about this is I know Mark still loves his ex-wife(he told my brother so just yesterday) and she still loves him. Why is he living with another woman and trying to keep it so hush hush...His ex is one of the best people you will ever know. You wont find anyone (no joke) that can say anything bad about her. I have to work with her tomorrow and I really don't know what to do. She is one of the foulest people and dirty mouthed people I have ever met. I really need anyone's advice...please help!
2007-04-04 19:47:46 · update #1
update: She came into work today and started talking again. He is playing both of them...,Should I just go straight to him or just stand by and let him hurt his ex?
2007-04-05 02:59:00 · update #2
talk to mark, give him a chance to set things right, tell him if things don't change you will be telling both women the truth. not a happy place for any of you to be in. good luck.
2007-04-05 03:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't tell her, first go to this mark guy and tell him to grow up and don't string her along especially since she is so sick. Tell him to decide which person he wants to be with, threaten that you will tell his ex wife the truth but don't tell him how you know this Tammy girl so you can see if he breaks up with her or not (if she told you so much and you just meet her the silly girl will end up telling you if they break up). If he still doesn't do the right thing then maybe tell your friend that her ex should stay as her ex.
2007-04-04 19:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by finabella9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And WHY wouldn't you want to rather talk to Mark about it?? Let me find out, isn't it because he will then kick Tammy's a*ss and it will potentially jeopardize your new job position? In other words, you would rather further undermine poor woman's health than have problems at your job. You are not as "philanthropic" as you try to seem.
2007-04-04 20:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it unless you are amused by drama and don't really care. Personally, I would tell. It might turn out funny.
2007-04-04 19:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Tell Mark ya know 'bout his dirty little secret,
...its called blackmail...& ya've got a chance ta make some ;)
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2007-04-04 19:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell it that way you would have a clean as well clear head by letting it be known. in my opion?
2007-04-04 19:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋