My wife divorced me because after I discovered I had bisexual feelings, she could no longer feel attracted to me. I know what I want, and that is a wonderful woman who I can have a family with. I did not want a divorce. My attractions to some men are purely physical, and are not enough to make me want to be with them. A meaningful relationship with a women is much more important to me. My wife knew I would never cheat on her, yet still couldn't reconcile feeling unattracted to me because of my same-sex attractions. Am I doomed to be alone now?
2007-04-04 19:33:25 · 15 answers · asked by Joito21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No your not doom to be alone,when you say you would never cheat on your wife does that included never being with a man as well if that is the case then why did you even bother with telling her, you must have none how she would react. Look I understand honesty and all and how it is very important in a marriage but there are some things better left hidden and that was one of them.If you can't live that way then you will need to find someone with a very open mind .and who doesn't have a jealous bone in her body,good luck with that one.
2007-04-04 19:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in this century of liberalization of course you can find a woman that doesn't care about sharing you with a man... is not your fault that you like womens and mens... that is your sexuality. Althoughhhhh you have to think that cheating is cheating no matter if you cheat with a boy or a girl...at the end your couple can get very envolved with you and someone that loves and cares for you is gonna feel a lot of pain if finds out that you are with someone else...You need to point this out when you start going out again... be sure that you are sincere since the beggining... someone has to accept you the way you are... if not then stay alone and enjoy your sexuality...
2007-04-05 02:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Vero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need professional counseling. You need to do it for yourself. Your future relationships would be ALOT better if you went and talked to a professional and licensed councelor about your situation.
I wouldnt say you are doomed but you are going to be much happier and wont be feeling doomed if you go get some help.
Maybe you need to be with a man sexually to see if thats what you really want? There is nothing wrong with homosexual desires. This could really help you figure everything out. You might find out you are gay and you love being with a man or you might realize "Ok! This is NOT what I want!" and dont tell anyone about this, this is your little secret. Its no ones business. I'm sorry, I dont know your situation, but divorces are no fun. If you dont want to have failed relationships in the future I suggest you take my advice.
Best of luck!! :)
2007-04-05 02:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Skinny Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the problem is especially since it sounds like you want a monogamous relationship with a woman? Just because you are bisexual doesn't mean you can't be monogamous. Plenty of people do it. It's fine. Your ex wife sounds like a real ***** either that or just another homophobe for divorcing you over something like that.
2007-04-05 02:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heterosexual females are probably going to have a problem being in a relationship with any man who finds other men physically attractive.
If you can control your physical urges to have sex with other men, and perhaps get some personal counseling to change your feelings and to direct your sexual energies toward satisfaction with females, you may be able to overcome the challenge permanently. You have hope if you are willing to work on eliminating these urges. Sexual (and other) behaviors are learned and can be controlled voluntarily.
2007-04-05 02:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not doomed, but marriage may not be the best solution for you if you need sexual intimacy from men (from time to time). This is not about your sexuality as much as its about your commitment.
It is a complex problem, and I wish you luck.
2007-04-05 02:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by bryan p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think it might be harder to find a lady who will accept that, but never say never. Good for you that you where at least honest with your ex wife. Do not give up
2007-04-05 02:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no. You are NOT destined to be alone. Bi guys are hot. You can screw their brains out and then they're sensitive and patient enough for you to go shopping with. Bi guys are awesome. It's basically a stud and a girlfriend in one package.
2007-04-05 02:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by The Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my permission to go ahead and be gay...I hate it when men can make up their minds if they like men or women...let me decide for you...you're gay now! I say so!
I don't care how many thumbs down I get. I'm entitled to feel this way. My daddy misled my mama like he wanted a wife!
2007-04-05 02:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is lots of women out there that are bisexual so yes I do feel that there is hope for you after all
GOOD LUCK
2007-04-05 02:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋