i love a guy and we r in 2 different countries, we r gona get married soon. the problem is that almost 90% of the times i call him, he doesnt reply coz he is with his friends and doesnt want to talk to me in front of them coz we r still not official (this is our tradition in our country). but even after he is alone he doesnt call me back and it makes me feel hurt. we do chat alot. also sometimes he doesnt reply back to my sms msgs. i know he loves me but this thing hurts me when it happens. i told him about it and he said he wont do it again, but still he does. he has improved in this thing but not alot.
what should i do? i am sure he loves me and we r planning for our marriage. should i keep on insisting on this issue or is it gonna end when we get married?
2007-04-04 19:29:51 · 3 answers · asked by A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm sure he loves you too...but you must realize in order for him to notice you, you must back off....if your calling 90 percent of the time and he's hardly ever replying back then that should tell you something....that means that it's really not a surprise for him to hear from you b/c your calling all the time....you know how someone calls you that you haven't heard from in a while... and when you find out who it is you get real excited, well that's what needs to happen in your case...stop calling and sending him text messages and watch the response you get back, b/c now he's doesnt even notice you b/c he knows your going to call...you've created a calling pattern that he's familiar with that's why he's not calling you back....b/c what he's saying to himself is oh whatever she'll call back....change the pattern and trust me he'll begin to notice....than he'll be saying to himself why is she not calling me or sending me messages, he'll be wondering whats up....ppl never notice what they have until it's gone and once the phone calls stop...that's when he's going notice you trust me.
2007-04-04 19:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand...his actions towards you doesn't show that he loves you. How can you be so sure he does? Be careful. If you allow him to do this before you get married, don't get mad at him if he continues to do it. I would not tolerate that. I've heard men say it too many times, "you didn't complain before we got married, did you?" or "you knew I was doing this before we got married. You're making your bed...this is what you'll have to sleep with..PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, don't take marriage lightly. LOVE is a beautiful thing....this is not love (or respect - when he does not respond to your needs). Do you really need him to get out of your country? A man that loves you would not leave you hanging (if he has control of it). Good luck!
2007-04-05 02:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lei Back and Relax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would think before i jumped into this marrage might be not what you want for in your life . my opion?
2007-04-05 03:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋