i think my b/f is shyer than i am and i'm sayin this sexually his alwayz afraid to try something new i feel like just making the move but i'm also shy & dont want to do anythin to make my b/f feel uncomfortable i want him to enjoy sex but wat tips can u guys giv me to make it more fun also i want to try something new should i talk to him about it or just make the move
2007-04-04 19:21:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Speaking from personal experience. The best thing I've found is to just make the move ... Try something simple at first ... like while you're already having sex, try to just move and position yourself in a new position. Most of the time they're just shy about asking you to do something they REALLY want. OR try wearing something slinky to try to show that you're willing to do something different. believe me, it will make some difference. And if he's not comfortable with it, talk to him about it, and express it from a stand-point that the sex is not "boring" but you want to try to liven it up a little.
But again, if you talk to him try REALLY hard to not make it sound like you're not satisfied with the sex you're currently having else you might lose that sex. Tell him that the changes in your sex is not for YOU but you're wanting to make sure HES enjoying himself and that you're trying to make HIM happy. hopefully this will help ... if you need further advice or just to get a little further advice on this topic feel free to email me or instant message me, I'm available mostly all the time!
2007-04-04 19:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh!! i can sense the uncomfortably of the situation, &talking to him is just gonna make u shyier hey??
well in order to move anywhere, or to the kinky dimension yall have to find a way of communicating ur desires, but it just has to be a two-way thing or else its gonna feel one sided...
so tell him u would like to add some difference in yall sex, &ask him what manner of communication would he feel comfortable with...(letter, email, note)& say he needs to add input as well
if he says something like: "well whatever u want.."dont stand for that, sulk, &abstain untill he gets what u trying to achieve
2007-04-04 19:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a card game from somewhere like spencer's of hollywood and just follow the directions on the cards. That way, you are not "bossing him around" but you dont have to wait forever for s3xual variety.
Maybe adding a glass of wine could help---Don't get drunk--you will have a hard time reaching an "o". Just a SLIGHT buzz to take away your inhibitions.
Have fun!
2007-04-04 19:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about it. Communication is very important, and sexual compatibility is an important element in romantic relationships.
Don't be afraid to ask him about the way he feels. If he is a rational and understanding person, he won't be offended if you ask with sensitivity.
Note: Not all people are sexually compatible, and it is possible that this is the case for you and your patner.
2007-04-04 19:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by bryan p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and say, "I would like to try _______. If you don't want to, that's Ok. I'm curious, is all."
Be modest, use "I" statements, etc.
He may not be into all that... at which point you need to evaluate if he's the kind of guy for you. No matter what people say, the sex does matter, especially in this day and age.
2007-04-04 19:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men need a woman to take the reigns...so do just that. Be the dominant one and see how he reacts..most men think it's sexy as hell.
If you're confident and comfortable it'll project...and he'll realize that he can be open as well.
Or just talk to him..see if he has any ideas as to what could make him a little less shy.
2007-04-04 19:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by iHEARTPiCKLES 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time you are making out, just test some new waters and take a little more control .
2016-03-29 00:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick up on Kama Sutra.
I heard it does wonders to couples, even the shy ones. Try it.
2007-04-04 19:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two are having sex you should be able to talk about it. people say that talking about sex when you're not in the bedroom takes the pressure off. try that maybe.
2007-04-04 19:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while your having sex, turn him over and change the position without even saying anything, just move your body with his into different angles
2007-04-04 19:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋