Do you think the husband should forgive his cheating wife EVEN THOUGH she had sex with other men?

Answer 1

Divorce is horrible, but sometimes necessary. It also should be the 'last' thing on your list of options. I left my husband for cheating on me, after I caught him three times in person. I still to this day wished that my marriage had worked out. I forgave him and the woman that he was with, but it took time. If I had to do it all over agian I would have moved away from the area that I was living in and seeked out counseling to see if my marriage could have been saved.

There is no simple answer to your question, because there are too many things that you did not mention. I think if she is willing to go to counseling that it would be good for both of you to try it and see what happens. I would also put her on probation, meaning that you make it very clear to her that if she behaves like that again that it is over between the two of you. If she is not willing to go to counseling then there is almost no hope for your marriage, because both of you have to be willing to save it and work at keeping it together.

As far as forgiving her it will take a lot of time and she will have to rebuild her trust with you, and that is not an easy task to accomplish after you "know for sure" that your spouse had cheated.

Just a few questions. How did you find out she was cheating? Did you see it in person? Did she tell you? If she told you, was she mad at you when she did? Or do you fell like she is cheating on you, because without proof and knowing for 100% that she had, I personally would never believe other people, family or friends or her when she is angry at you.

I was accused of cheating by my ex and it made me so angry that I said I was when I never had even thought about it. The reason he thought I was cheating was because I had family member that did not want us together and she told him that I was cheating on him. It was the first seed that led to the end of our marriage. I was young and not so bright then, and I would handle it totally different now.

Well good luck and I hope everything works out for the best for you.

Answer 2

There's a saying: Forgive and forget... But there's another saying: Once a cheater, always a cheater.

The husband may forgive the wife, but he will certainly NOT forget about it. He'll probably become suspicious of her every activity, and it will probably ruin the marriage. But it will all be her fault for cheating.

No offense, but the wife should not have been a hoe and remained faithful to her husband.

Answer 3

The husband would really have to look deep into his heart to make that decision. It would matter what the husband has been through already in his life. He knows what he can settle for and what he can live with. If he "wishes" he could make it OK within himself, but is worried he can't, it isn't going to work. The husband has to follow his "gut" feeling, it normally is 75% right. It will hurt to let go, but if he tries to save something that will only hurt him for ever maybe, he's wasting precious time of both their lives. Chances are too, once a cheater, a cheater she will be again! You need to remember she cheated for a reason in the first place..

Answer 4

If the husband is thinking about it, then he has already forgiven her. This is not a tough decision to make. You are either the type of person to forgive or you are not. If you have to ask people if you should, you are just looking to get sympathy, because no matter what they say, you will end up forgiving her anyways.

Answer 5

No, you will be restless and mad for the rest of your life suspecting everything she says or does. Trust is the main foundation of any relationship, if it's broken it's very hard to carry on. "Once a cheater is always a cheater" has sadly proven to be correct most of time if it's not all the time. To be cheated on is a horrible feeling, don't give her the chance to do it again to you.

Move on and you will find a trustworthy woman who is worthy of your love and your name. Good Luck!

Answer 6

*No I don't think you should forgive her, because once you do that...she is going to have the mind set, that NOW everytime she wants to go out and cheat...that you will take her back and forgive her...therefore she WILL continue to do it.

`So as hard as it may be, you just need to go file some divorce papers and MOVE on buddy. She is doing you NO good at all. '

~And hey you can come hang out w/ me and my g/f's (were all around 20-21yrs. old) haha....we'd make you forget her real quick! ~ haha :) :)

**Anyways don't be stupid and take her back, because re-read what I wrote above, she will keep doing it...if she knows she can get away with it.
It's almost like a childish syndrome or something, like when little kids do something bad and their parents don't do squat about it...what do they do? THEY KEEP DOING IT...because they know they can walk all over their parents and get away with it.
...Good luck on your decision.

Answer 7

I'd say yes - if she is willing to work on the marriage. She must have a lot of time alone to be cheating with other men (not just one man). Perhaps both spouses should get some marriage counseling - just enough to see the issues.

Answer 8

Depend whether the husband thinks he can live with that.

The fact you said "men" seems to mean there has been more than one man.

That would be too difficult for most men to deal with. Would be difficult to re-establish trust after that, but...

It depends on the husband. They need to talk. Does the wife want out, is she playing games, trying to force the issue... ?

Tough awful situation.

Answer 9

im going to be blunt...

if a person can have sex with another person that is not their spouse....they obviously either have no conscience or they simply dont cherish the relationship enough to think twice about having sex with another man/woman.

No, a cheating spouse should not be forgiven. The relationship will never fully have trust and it will never flourish. =[

Answer 10

It depends.Is she sorry?Who did she cheat with?Where were you?What was her mental state?Was she drinking too much and got taken advantage of?I can See how some situations can occur that might be forgivable.If you were away for long periods of time and she got lonely and went with some freinds for a drink then she drank too much and looked around and everyone left her and she made a stupid decision someone took advantage of.You have to decide is this something that will happen again and again or is it a one time deal.Really is she truly sorry?You be the judge its your marraige.