My husband is great but i dont love him i dont know if i ever did, is it right to stay with someone because they are a good person, or because your scared that you wont find someone that will love you the same? I feel like giving up.
2007-04-04 18:54:45 · 16 answers · asked by sabrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why in the world did you walk down the aisle with him then?
I don't think people should give up after such a short period of time, but go with what your heart says. that's probably what you are going to do, anyways!
2007-04-04 18:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must not give up, not so easily a nd not so soon. the day u got married u made a commitment ' in good times and bad' so hold urself to the words and work for ur marriage. love is a relative word u know. and in most cases it isnt there atleast completely . u should start with respect, if u respect him and remove the thought that 'it aint gonna ork out' then u will come to love him. take time and do things together, surprise him and let him surprise u. and communicate thats most important. u know romance can be sparked in the most unusual way. but dont give up not now
2007-04-05 02:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sabrina, I wish I knew how old u r .not that it would make a diffrence in my answer to your question. How long have you been married? I wouuld like to give you great advice and tell ya every thing is going to be Ok .but that is not gonna happen. Unfortnally if your not in love now you will never "grow to luv him" get out now and still be friends. I'm sure if he feels the same way you both will be happy. I hope there are no kids involved. Hey girl go get a happy life!!Wish Ya Luck All The Way!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 02:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by muffinman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should give it up yet. the first couple of years of marriage are really the toughest with lots of mixed emotions running rampant. its hard trying to mesh two separate lives into one. hang in there a little longer and try to not become another statistic of how marriage just doesnt seem to work anymore. at the same time, try not to have any kids until you are 100% sure that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. are you sure you arent in love with this man? are your heart and mind playing tricks on you? how would you feel if your husband confessed to you that he no longer wanted to be with you....devastated, ......or relieved?
2007-04-05 02:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by lookin4ananswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before you bring any children in to this situation. Next relationship, take your time before jumping into a marriage. Remember that marriage is plenty of work and dedication to each other. Just try to imagine that person being unable to care for themselves. Would you want to take care of them forever? Just read the vows. Those vows are eternal promises. If you are not able to keep them, please do not destroy other people's lives by taking them again. Best wishes for a better future.
2007-04-05 02:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu screwed up. YOu probably wasted his time and yours.
You already made a commitment but since it has only been 6 months maybe you can get an anulment. Get out now before you really hurt him. You sound insecure and you should seek counseling because it is you that has the problem.
He does not deserve this unsure nonsense.
GROW UP!
2007-04-05 02:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up. you've just started.. you're right of being scared that you won't find someone who will love you the same as he does. but if you leave him, and come back, he can't love you the same way before.. think of something that could make you happy. appreciate his little works of thoughtfulness.. in time, you'll come to realize that you had the right choice. it's hard to find someone who respects and treats you right now-a-days.. it's you choice,it's your feelings,it's your happiness..
2007-04-05 02:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Luisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K
Why be miserable and waste you life with someone that you don't love? Life is really too short for this and while you should have thought about this before you married I think its best you get a divorce asap...
Would you want someone to be with you because they think your a nice person?
2007-04-05 02:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tommorrow, I celebrate my 4 year anniversary and I knew it was a mistake within the first month. It hasn't gotten easier but it has gotten to the point that I don't care about else is out there, I'm settled. That's it!
2007-04-05 02:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him if you don't love him? If he loves you and is a decent person, the he's worth devoting your time and follow through with your vows you promised at your wedding. You only have yourself to blame for being in this situation.
2007-04-05 01:58:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋