I married when i was 18 to a guy who is older than me with 17 y we've been married for 9 y we have 2 children i was very happy in our first 5 y but we have some problems and we get Divorce for almost 2 yers that was in 2004 in that time i met that guy who was older than me with 6 years he loves me so much and i lived the most wanderful 2 years in my life we getting engaged and was preparing our house to get married but i felt that i'll hurt my children sepcialy that they was with their father and they needed me so i decide to returen back to my Husband for the sake of my kids. so i left my love and returen back to my husband but the problem now is that i miss him so much and i cant stop thinking about him nights and days i am trying to make myself busy with my kids and my work (iam a model) and in the other hand my husband is very good with me he bring me anything i want, and he support me but i feel tht he give me lots of care but not love he treat me as if i am his Daughter. help me
2007-04-04 14:17:47 · 21 answers · asked by jivago lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since you have make a choice for your kids than stick to it, furthermore, you husband have treated you well and what else you want more, don't be greedy, you can have only one of them. infact to stay with your husband you're getting more, his love and concern and alos the happiness of you kids, learn to let go and forget, it will make you a happier person, happy family my dear
2007-04-04 14:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
your not helping your child en at all by living a life of lies. your teaching them to stay with someone even if your not happy. that's not good everyone needs to be happy the children will adjust. you hurt your children more when your not happy. and a man doesn't need to give you everything you want, that's what makes you feel like a daughter. why were the children with there father? instead of you.
2007-04-04 21:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by kathy m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should really follow your heart. If you are unhappy then you children will see that, and that won't help them at all. Your husband sounds nice, but if your not in love with him, then you should end it. You should go where you are happy, and your kids will be happy too.
I know from experience because my father died, and my mom started dating a year later, i was so mad and unhappy, so she stopped. But then i could tell she was unhappy. But now she is dating again and i can see the happiness in her eyes. So I am happy now too.
Your kids will forgive you, they be mad or upset at first, but once they see how much happier you are, they will be happy too!
Follow your heart!!
Good luck!
2007-04-04 21:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off don't stay for the kids because your kids aren't going to be happy if your not happy. Money doesn't buy love sorry. Apparently you really love and care for the other man so go back and be happy. Happiness is everything. Your kids will understand when they get older (trust me I know)
2007-04-04 21:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by kaytlynsmom 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why can't you marry the man you love and have joint custody of your children? You don't have to live inside a nuclear family to be a good parent. In fact, your children will probably be happier if they grow up watching their parents be happy.
Your dillema doesn't appear to be unmanageable. Good luck to you.
2007-04-04 22:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by wsibwigu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your Husband and go back to the one you Love if he will have you. Do not stay with someone you don't love,its not fair to you or him,or the kids for that matter. Your kids will grow up and have their own lives some day then where will you be?Don't be a fool,do it soon!
2007-04-04 21:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lori O 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Such affection you require does not happen over night and the desire for your bf is natural and can be very difficult because there was no real negative issue why you left him...so your only thinking this was all good...but you made a decision, your family does need you...make the best of it and everything will fall into place sooner or later...
2007-04-04 21:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go back to the man you love. Your children can still be part of your life, and their lives would be better with a mom who is happy.
2007-04-04 21:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by confusedus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if your kids care about you then they will want you to do what makes you happy you should follow your heart and go to the love of your life if he makes you happy then that is the best thing for you and your husband will just have to deal with it because you are divorced just take your kids and go to the love of our life because he makes you happy and that is important
2007-04-04 21:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get no sympathy here.. You have a husband you made a commitment..KEEP IT.. forget about the other guy...everyone has problems in their marriage. You admit your husband is good to you so "quit y'er bellyaching" and do your part to make the marriage work. So, you don't like my answer...TOUGH!!!
2007-04-04 21:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by DrK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋