Or go out and find yourself another partner my ex-wife still married to her did this on me and now she wants me to try again.
HELP ME PLEASE?
2007-04-04 14:14:01 · 32 answers · asked by colin050659 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T DO IT. And get better friends. If she did it once maybe but twice with two different guys.... she'll do it again. I hope you listen and don't put yourself through that again.
Good Luck
2007-04-04 19:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson if you are even thinking about salvaging the relationship or having another relationship with someone else in the future.
Tell her to give you time to think about it and that you will call or contact her when you have made your decision (and read this book while you make her wait). If she says she won't wait around forever or for long tell her then that's her loss! She didn't wait while she was in the marriage anyway! By not telling her a definite yes or a definite no, you can buy yourself some time to do some serious soul-searching on what you need to do. And let her know that you need some time to figure things out and that you need to do some serious searching. And if she wants, let her try to win you back. She is in serious need of counseling and maybe finding out why she has a straying heart. And she has to prove to you that she won't ever do this again and she has to earn your trust.
And read this book. She is disrespecting you by treating you this way, playing you for a sucker. And what's worse, she did it with your friends. How many more incidences took place that you don't know about? How many more times does she get to cheat and have you take her back?
If you decide to not try again with her, I still suggest you read this book. It's a really good book that deals with this kind of situation. And it can't hurt to read it A.S.A.P. And it might help you avoid another situation like this in the future with another lady---a real one who will treat you right and will be faithful to you. A woman you deserve.
You do not deserve this treatment by her or your "friends", and she deserves the men she cheated with. All of them. You also do not deserve any diseases or other men's babies she might be bringing to you and the utter agony and pain she is causing you by doing this behavior.
2007-04-04 14:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by deva s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not. Instead id kick the sh.it out my 2 "mates" and drag her thru' the market place and have her stoned to death by a braying mob, whilst chanting 'sl-ut'. Or douse her in petrol and put a couple of car tyres round her neck......whilst chanting 'sl-ut'
Its probably not a good idea just to find another partner so soon regardless of which execution method you decide upon, instead take time out alone and enjoy the single life for a while without the pressures and frustrations of a full blown relationship.
2007-04-04 19:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Njd1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me once and I am still with him. BUT if he did it again, he would be long gone!! Once is a mistake, twice your asking for it, and I do believe in second chances, which is what you gave her and she blew it like she did the first time. If you take her back, she will think that this is how it will be all the time and just keep on doing it, with your best friends or not. thats even worse!!! she has no repect for your friendships, and sounds like she really doesn't care if you have any friends. Now yes most definitly let her go. Its really one thing to cheat, but much worse when she does it with you friends,.. you best friends at that. No good. Don't fall for it again you wil be ok and you WILL find someone who will be good to you like you deserve!!!
2007-04-04 15:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one, and if you didn't you certainly see the common theme here. The problem is it's a no win situation. There is no realistic way you could take her back and EVER have her really respect you.
If you do go against this (and most other's) advice and take her back - make sure you don't have any more best friends while you're together!!!
2007-04-04 15:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't take her back, not eve after the first time. Marriage is about honesty, trust, love,etc. and your wife not only went against her vows but she cheated with your best friends( which means your best friends are not really your friends). I think you need to move on b/c you deserve a women like that and she doesn't need to be married if she can't honor her vows.
2007-04-04 14:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't have after the first time, let alone a third...don't put yourself through it. She will only hurt you again, there is no way I don't think that a person who would do this to someone deserves another chance to hurt you. Go out and find someone who will treat you like you deserve
2007-04-04 14:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by TheatreFan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...give yourself some time to heal after this blow! Take a big breath before you go find another partner...I am so sorry...my heart goes out to you . There is a good person out there for you ...
2007-04-04 15:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by kmoc123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife likes having the security of having you to fall back on, you need to get out of it, or at least have a separation and if she really wants you back she will fight for you, but she sounds like she only has her interest in mind, you could be a lot happier out of it by the sounds of it
2007-04-04 14:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Wee Scottish Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO run far away dude!!! Some people want to use you up until the next victim for them comes along and then they leave you high and dry and then they come back if you let them. Sounds like a scary movie.
2007-04-04 14:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by sweet p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋