Once again, one of my what if questions.?

Question

No, I dont have a daughter, and I am not pregnant, I just think up random questions and like to hear peoples views:P

If you had a 16 year old daughter, who became pregnant by a 25 year old man. And this man offered to pay for the baby, marry your daughter, and be there 24/7, would you report him? Lock him away?

To the last person who just posted...

He can't pay for the baby if hes locked up and been fired from his job.;)

So think twice. If this man is offering to pay, and be there emotionally, are you going to deny a father to your grandchild? A husband to your daughter? Oh, ofcourse you will, shes your baby. Doesn't matter if she will have to quit school because you had her only ticket to $$ locked in jail and fired. All that matters is that horrible man is in jail, even when he offered to marry her, pay for the child, and be a part in it's life.

Wow lady. Even if he was willing to marry, support, and be there emotionally for that child you would lock him in jail? Do you realise that as soon as your daughter is of legal age, shes most likely going to leave you? And I find it sad that myself at sixteen can talk more maturely than you.

Suppose this man was not abusive? Suppose he made one mistake, and was willing to pay for it. Are you going to ruin the relationship with your daughter, ruin this mans career, just so he can spend 10 years away from his child in jail?

There is honestly a limit to punishment, and if this happend to my daughter, unless he raped her, hit her, or used her, and refused to pay, I wouldn't lock him away.

You need to look at the future, and what would be best ten years down the road. A child that has a father with a clean record and a good job.

NOT a father who has spend the last ten years in jail, lost his job, and can't find work. You may think it's the best for your "baby" but your baby is not going to think that when ten years down the road her college grad husband can only get a job at mcdonalds because of something YOU did.

You are KILLING any chance that the child has at a normal life. It's father will be a sex offender, no matter if he owned up to it, was there for your daughter and the child 24/7.

Do you want to pay for that child? Do you want to see her have to dropout because her babies father lost his job, and is in jail because he cannot make child support? When all you had to do was not call the police, and your daughter could have had a man there for her, helping her with money, etc. But no, he "hurt" your baby. You don't care if she is going to suffer because of what you do.

And 5-10 years is quite along time to be not in touch with a child.

Answer 1

Id kill both of them

Answer 2

After I whoop my daughter's @$$ for getting involved with a 25 year old, I have to say there is no way in the world I would allow it! At 16 she is just far too young to make that kind of commitment! I will have his @$$ locked up, and ya damn right I would make him pay for the baby.
But that's me. If he was honorable, he wouldn't have been effing my underage daughter from the jump.

He wouldn't be locked up for long, and there is such thing as BACK child support! He would be paying for the baby. Now, if my daughter, when she becomes of legal age, and they still
LUUUuuuuvvvv each other, I have no say really if she wanna marry her baby's daddy. THEN I would support her-cuz by 18, legally she is an adult. But other than that, I am sorry, but it just is NOT cool.

Now...Let me tell y'all...when I was 16, I was messing with a 20 year old, and he KNEW that I was 16. When my mama found out, she was READY to have him locked up, but I had broken up with him because he was starting to be physically abusive, and I just don't get down like that. He narrowly escaped jail time for messing with me. I woulda ended up in jail if he tried that mess one more time, cuz I woulda killed him personally!

Answer 3

I think that it is easy to say that you would castrate him, or lock him up. But the reality is, this is a delicate situation. If you lock him up, your daughter will hate you and rebel even more then she already has by getting pregnant in the first place. I am sure that most of the woman that read and answer this can remember what it was like to be 16. The whole trying to find yourself and get out of daddy and mommy's "pockets". I think the best thing is to talk to your daughter, I mean 16 doesn't mean that she is not intelligent. I don't think I would allow the marriage, but he would be helping out, financially and emotionally. I would make sure that the father took care of his responsibilities as, if it was my daughter, she would not be allowed to quit school.

Answer 4

That's a tough one.

The key is the best thing for my Daughter --- who at 16 should not have let this happen, should not have had her education and future compromised and probably isn't old enough to know what's best for her.

As I said, a tough question (clueless_nerd thinks and types at the same time).

I guess I'd be happy with the "pay for the Baby part" and not so happy with the "Marry the daughter" part. But in any case you asked whether I'd report him or lock him away. The purpose of either would be to keep him from doing that to someone else. Sounds like he learned his lesson and is going to take responsibility, so I guess I wouldn't.

Good hypothetical question.

Answer 5

Pedo is not a sixteen year old girl.

If he offered to marry her, and pay for the child, I warn most of you parents to take a second thought at reporting him to the police. Your daughter will be emotionally scarred, have no father for her child, and be short on money for a very long time.

Not all 16 year olds are being raped when they have sex.

And if this person agrees to paying and being there emotionally, it is not the sign of a sick sexual predator. It is a sign of a man who let his penis take the best of him, and is willing to own up to his actions and be the better man.

Answer 6

Love would make the difference... Does he love her? Does she love him? Will his love for her be strong enough to make him keep his promises. If that's all yes, then I would say let it happen. After all, 16 is old enough to give consent in some states, and even marry. My grandmother was 16 when she married a 44 year old widower. She had three step-children who were all older then her... She was still 16 when she had the first of five daughters by him. They had 40 very happy years together before he died. Best, ~Ed~

Answer 7

i would let him be a part of the babies life, i dont think id let him go as far as marriage unless he really loved my daughter and still i make them wait a few years just to be sure. I definetly wouldnt report him after all age is just a number (with reason of course) and you cant control who you fall for

Answer 8

i'm not a Muslim and that i don't hate Muslims. I see those questions because of the fact I click on the society and custom area and those questions in basic terms pop up. I even have themes with all prepared religions. even though it does not mean I hate them. i don't think of God could desire all the hatred occurring in His call. final analysis no person is conscious precisely what God has stated because of the fact it truly is all coming in the process the mouths of mere mortals.i'm very interested in the place the suggestion got here from that developed each faith.All i certainly desire in this international is for all the hating to offer up.

Answer 9

Well, if he was offering to marry her, and he loved her and wanted the child, I wouldn't report him to the police. I would however, if he didn't try to take some responsibilty for the baby I would have to take that measure of tell the police.

Answer 10

It would really depend on ow mature my daughter was to begin with. If she was very mature for her age then no. If he is willing to step up and take his responsibility then let him. On the other hand if she was immature and he took advantage of that then I would do everything in my power to make sure he never saw daylight again.

Answer 11

Nope. If the 25 yr old would be willing to take care of the baby that's good enough for me.