the father of the baby and myself are no longer talking he would just assume put baby up for adoptioni on the other hand plan on keeping baby but i am due in 2 weeks was wondering should i bother even telling him the baby was born or just keep the bundle of joy to myself i have my own ideas just wondering some others
2007-04-04 11:08:06 · 15 answers · asked by notme 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's up to you wether you keep the baby or offer it up for adoption.
If you keep the baby, figure out wether you want the father to be a part of his life or not. If you do, make sure his name goes on the birth certificate. You can also collect child support and share custody or allow visitations. Just tell him straight out that you will be keeping him.
If you don't want him to have anything to do with him, tell the Doctor you don't know who the father is. That way his name won't og on the birth certificate.
BTW - you have every right to ask for support. It takes 2 to make a baby, and just because he wanted you to abort or give it up for adoption , it doesn't mean he's not responsible anymore
Best of luck.
2007-04-04 11:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm guessing you are not married to the father. He has a right to know about the baby and your decision. He says put the baby up for adoption probably because he doesn't want to pay child support. The decision is truly yours to make. Please don't make this decision during an emotional time. Remember that your decision will affect you, the father, and the baby forever. There is no way around that. Carefully weigh all the options, talk to a counselor or pastor, and make an informed and responsible choice. Best of luck to you on this.
2007-04-04 11:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by notarycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one..i am sure there are is alot of hurt and rightfully so..i would hope if faced with the same situation..i would have someone call him after the birth..that way you dont have to talk to him and can concentrate on your baby..but yet he is also informed that he is a father..not a dad but a father..i hope everything works out for you..and good luck with your bundle of joy
2007-04-04 11:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by bailie28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no, no and no. If he knows about your pregnancy and he knows that he is the father and he has done nothing for you thruout this, comfort, support, just being there to go thru it all with you then he already knows all he needs to know. He knows eventually your going to deliver. If he does not want to keep him/her don't bother telling him anything at all until he asks. If he gets pissy about it just tell him--'hey you didn't want anything to do with this remember so why would I call you and bug you about it. You made your choice, I made my choice to keep my baby without you.' I'm telling you seriously from experience honey, if he doesn't want to be involved don't force it. Any negative things he has to say will hurt you really really bad with all the emotions your feeling now as well as after birth when you have this perfect baby that you love more than anything you have ever felt love for. If he comes around deal with him then. If he doesn't you and your baby are better off without him. I tried to force my boyfriend of 3 years to get involved with the child I delivered after he turned away from her and it ended up so painful for my daughter and myself that if I could go back in time, I never would have told him. Then you have to let this guilt ridden person who really does not care do his parenting time and take your child (especially if you go thru friend of the court) whether or not your child is clinging to you and screaming please don't make me go, because it is court ordered and if you don't let him take his visitation you can go to jail and then who gets your child--the other parent--him. Not good! Just remember You can't force a father to become a daddy.
2007-04-04 11:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by mom_of_2 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can keep the baby to yourself, but he probably should know he has a child. He may have a change of heart. Good Luck with the baby.
2007-04-04 11:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him. Like it or not, he's the father, and he deserves to be informed.
If you don't want to tell him directly, at least have someone else tell him... your mom, a friend, whoever. But he should know.
Get the baby's legal status clarified too... if he wants to give up parental rights, make sure you go through the legal steps to make it official. You don't have to do it the day the kid is born, but do make sure it gets done.
2007-04-04 11:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 02:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep the baby. well,thats if you want to and you should tell him when the baby is born because he is the father and he might want to be in the babies life.
2007-04-04 11:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by angel 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i think he has a right to know even tho it might be hard. i think u should tell him. but yeah defently keep the baby! hopefully the father will understand that he is the father and will help take care of her/him
2007-04-04 11:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by luvinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about 12, 13, 16 years from now, when one or both of them finds out about...you'll feel terrible. Better to let him know somehow...both to avoid that possibility, and alsoto claim support from him.
I loved the baby notification thing...that would be a priceless way to do it. :)
2007-04-04 11:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by dazedandconfused 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋