I don't want him to think I did this intentionally, to "trap" him, because, I didn't. We were not very smart about protection some of the time, which is both of our faults. How should I tell him without him flipping out at me, and thinking I did this on purpose?
2007-04-04 09:31:49 · 18 answers · asked by lost_escape 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'd wait to say anything until you're sure you're having a baby. Not to be negative but there is fairly high rate of miscarriage before 12 weeks. If you do manage to make it to 12 weeks and plan to keep (or adopt out) the baby you should let him know. It wouldn't be right to just send the baby up for adoption without even asking his feelings on the topic.
That said, don't try to win him back with baby news. Babies don't fix relationships--EVER. If it wasn't good to begin with the added stress of a baby SURE won't make it better.
Oh, and I agree, most guys, if not actively TRYING for pregnancy, good relationship or not FLIP OUT. Even some of the ones actively trying react to "success" with mixed emotions. So, flipping out is a given, the fact that you're "broken up" only makes the likelihood of "flip out" double. Sorry. That's just the way it is.
2007-04-04 09:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you just might as well tell him now and get the frustration out of the way. He might be alittle off at first, might react happy, mad, sad, crazy or pyscho..lol but dont worry because if you decide to keep the baby, most guys soften up and there ALOT more supportive than you will think! Of course thats if he is a real man and doesnt decide to leave. But anyways, I doubt he will think you used it as a "trap" because if you said both of you werent to smart about protection, then he should know better than thinking there was a chance that he could get you pregnant. Tell him now and get it over with! If you think he was a real man, then Im sure it wont be as bad as you think! I wish you the best of luck!! God bless you and your unborn baby =-)
*20 weeks prego!
2007-04-04 09:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by curious789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant get pregnant on purpose, really, thats silly.
It takes 2 to make a baby. Tell him your sorry things ended they way they did but you are pregnant.
See what he says.
Hes either going to
a. be mad
b. be ok with it ....or
c. be thrilled
You are the one to carry and deliver the baby so what you want is what needs to be done, no exceptions.
But he is the father so let him know and see how he wants to handle it.
God will not give you more than you can take, even though sometimes it doesnt seem that way.
Best of luck to you and your baby.
2007-04-04 09:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly most guys whether your together or not (unless you were both trying) are going to flip out. just tell him flat out that you know you guys aren't together anymore and that your not trying to trap him but you are pregnant with his child (and that you plan to keep it---right??). just be straight forward with him but be ready and prepared for him to flip out-if it would be better tell him then sit there for a minute and if he starts yelling or acting crazy just get up and leave and let him cool down, remember you have had time to think about it when you first realized you missed your period or that the symptoms where there - he hasn't had any for-warning to prepare himself. tell him then let him think it out for awhile, don't get in his face and ask him a bunch of questions he'll just get madder, give him time to take it all in and realize what is going on.
2007-04-04 09:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by emery_sage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABORTION IS NOT THE ANSWER what u need to do is tell him oh i'm pregnet with ur baby i'm not asking u or telling u to be with me i'm jst telling u that i have ur baby and i want u to reconize him as ur own or do some thing like tht bcuz if u get an abortion now then when u want to have a baby ur not going to be able to u will probably have a miss carrige atlease one or 2 times soo becarefull with ur choice
2007-04-04 09:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by BABY_BOO90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you decide to keep the baby or not u have to tell him! If you just recently broke up than you couldn't possibly gotten yourself pregnant just to keep him with you. Talk to him and come up with a solution. You don't necessarily have to get back together but work things out like mature adults!
2007-04-04 09:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥**Me**♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you want him to come back to you and the baby or not. If your a strong woman, which you need to be now, you just need to tell him that your prego and then start getting your life ready for a baby. And don't depend on him in any way.
2007-04-04 09:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are 100% positive, it doesnt matter a whole lot how you tell him you have too tell him. Either way you have to deal with this you dont have much of a choice, he can stay up or choose to ignore it until its right in front of his face. Maybe you two will reconcile. Whatever happens I wish you the best.
2007-04-04 09:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by jewels7972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk with him about that
if he really loves u and care about u then he should face the reality that u r pregnant from him
tell him that is not ur fault and u didnt intend to do that
and by his turn he should take care more about u
talk to ur family and to his family if he didnt want to take the responsibilty
2007-04-04 09:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere are so many loving homes waiting for children in our very rich country. Give your baby to those who suffer for not having been able to end up in your shoes.
2007-04-04 09:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋