Im 21 years old and married.
My husband and I have our own home.
I try to be very morally correct.
I waited until I was married to have sex.
But last week I did something so disgusting. Let me explain last week my parents went on a cruise for their 25th anniversary.. and asked my husband and I to house sit, you know come over feed the plants and so on.
Well when I was feeding the plants in my parents room... we kinda ended up having sex in their bed, neither of us were thinking we were just making love and I felt so bad afterwards, I even trashed their sheets and shampooed their matress with the carpet cleaner, but I still feel bad that was my parents bed... I would feel violated if i knew someone was having sex in my bed and I want to confess so bad.. my husband takes me as a joke... either I confess are buy them a whole new bedroom suite and make it an extra gift theyre not due back until saturday.. what should I do?
Im very serious..
Thanks alot!
2007-04-04 09:15:42 · 6 answers · asked by proudvirgin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did nothing wrong.
You are married.
Your parents probably suspect that you are no longer a virgin.
Your parents left you and your husband at the house. Do you think they just expected you to play cards all week.
Since your parents left you in the house and they know that your married and they know that you are no longer a virgin they might suspect that you would have sex while at their house. If they didn't want you to do that they would have told you.
Your parents won't ask you if you had sex in the house or where you had sex in the house when they got back. Do you know why? Because your an adult and it's your life and they don't want to know about your sex life.
Would you like for them to come and tell you that you were concieved while they had sex on the kitchen table and that your mother had four orgasms. No, you wouldn't. You don't want to know.
Your parents would rather not know that you had sex in their bed.
If you tell your parents you will be inflicting serious harm on your relationship with your husband.
If you absolutely must have forgiveness for this then tell your pastor/minister/priest and get his forgiveness.
For you to ask that question you must have a very abnormal view about sex. I sincerely suggest that you get some counseling before you have kids and totally screw up their heads about sex. Sex is just a normal part of the world.
2007-04-04 09:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by itsme2033 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! People really worry about anything! Anyway, you've already told them! Or do you think they would not notice that their mattress is smelling funny from the carpet cleaner?
Seriously, I'm feeling sorry for you. You obviously think having sex is something "bad." And you think so because your parents think so. They are mistaken and in the name of your own future happiness you should get better informed. There's nothing to worry about. You should ask yourself WHY you would feel "violated" if someone had sex in your bed. Why on Earth do you think what you did is "disgusting?" Counseling might be a good idea.
2007-04-04 09:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by oneinunity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so stressed about it.Yes,you know you did something you wouldn't want anyone to do to you but it happened and you have to get over it.
I don't think you should confess and neither do I feel you have to buy a new bedroom suite for them. Sure they wouldn't want to hear your intimate details and you've done enough by trashing the sheets and shampooing the mattress.
Actually look at it from your hubby's point of view.You'll laugh about this one day.I'm sure you will.
It's not like you had a friend over while your parents were away and this happened.You're married and you were with your husband. IF your parents knew they would understand anyway. lol.
Don't feel so guilty and let up on yourself.It's not the end of the world. and I hope you soon get over it.
God Bless my dear.
2007-04-04 09:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to your parents, or you can get counseling on your own. I'm not saying you have a problem, but hiding something like that can cause emotional and psychological issues. Sometimes you can't help who you are attracted to, and it's definitely a very good thing that you realized that this is wrong. Try counseling and see if that helps at all. Good Luck!! P.S. Going to counseling does not mean there's something wrong with you, contrary to what a lot of people believe. It means you are seeking answers and staying mentally healthy!
2016-05-17 06:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a confession goes under the heading "too much information".
Relax. You didn't do anything wrong.
2007-04-04 09:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens. If it really bothers you that much. Just let them know and tell them you are willing to replace their bed.
2007-04-04 09:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋