What do you call a two headed cow, snake, or any other creature? It is called a freak. You don't have two presidents of a country or a business...you have one. Why can't women realize that for a family to function properly (like any other establishment) that it can only have one head (leader) and not two. The idea of a "partnership" in a "healthy" relationship is a myth. One has to be subordinate to the other. And I do not know of very many non-feminists that would like a man that has to be led.
2007-04-04 09:00:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Billie, I know not your background nor your education, but you are dead wrong. Marriage as a partnership can work very well. The problems with marriage in our country is it is based upon totally unrealistic concepts. People have no idea what love really is. The problem is not partnership. That works well.
I have done marriage counseling for 30 years and the worst is where one individual (usually the male) wants to be dominant over the other (usually a female). This makes women second class citizens, which they are not. The only healthy workable marriage is a partnership.
Your ideas are great ... for the 1920's.
Dr. J
2007-04-04 09:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 8⤊ 4⤋
Cows, snakes and other creatures are not the same as humans. My bf and I have a partnership and we have a healthy relationship. Neither of us is a subordinate of the other. It doesn't have to be an either/or situation. In a relationship there are other options beyond leader and follower. This question sounds like you have control issues and for whatever reason feel the need to dominate your partners. Please don't project your issues on everyone else.
To answer the initial question: I believe at least some women have a problem with so called "male leadership" in the home because it resonates back to a time when that was the only option, when women were second class citizens and had no options, when we were basically indentured servants. It's not always that way in practice, but that's what comes to mind when you say that male leadership is the only way things work.
2007-04-04 14:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bjjb-- you can't be serious? Of course there can and must be a partnership in a relationship. Relationships are not cows or snakes or countries. I do not want a man that has to be led, but I know very few confident men who want a woman that has to be led either. People who need to be led are called children.
2007-04-04 10:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by anastasia v 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Whatever!! You obvious believe that a woman should be below the man and be under his heel all the time. That isn't the way it really works. Sorry to say. You mush also not be married!! If you are, your wife is one of the women who will probably put up with anything.
In my house (yes I said MY house!!) I'm with the kids all day, I'm the one who cooks, cleans, does the laundry, takes care of the kids. I'm the one who sees how the house really works, and I'm the one who makes the rules. Yes, my husband and I talk about decisions, we go over finances together, we work out problems together.
God even said that woman was to be a HELP MATE to her husband. Not below him, not to be tread upon.
I do have to say that my husband is the spiritual head of our household. He is the one who works and brings home the money. I do listen to him when it comes to money and finances, and things that deal with our families spiritual well being. But in no way does he try to control me, or treat me as less then he is.
The fact that you say there can't be a partnership in marriage is ridiculous!!!!! What do you think marriage is anyway? Your family life must have really been interesting!
2007-04-04 09:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by odd duck 6 · 5⤊ 3⤋
It is a partnership, your house/ family is not a business its not a country. Your family is a group of individuals and bind together, families should not have policies, or regulations, you should work with your family on a personal non professional way. It does work with two in charge, even if you split
2007-04-04 11:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by lulubelle55555 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Our home operates on an equal share basis,each doing their part and role of what they do best...Respecting a person for their abilities is a different story than capabilities due to their gender...
Mental function comes into play as well...thus some may need to be led in order to function..
2007-04-04 09:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
"Only women who have come to the true realization that they are intellectually superior to men get upset at male leadership"
works both ways. THere are men out there who think that women are no more than a walking uterus. That's why radical feminism is a complete joke. You can never trust people who think like that. And they are easy to figure out.
2007-04-04 16:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by dfs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
COME ON! men can't have all the 'me' things. if you marry ur loved one then there is equality. if u just go to work and go home and sit on ur ***, go to bed and want sex, waiting for ur woman to do everything that's not fair. the women do everything and we dont' have time for our self like lazy guys out there trying to be leaders in the home. women wll get back at u one day and u will not like that. we have a 24 hr job, giving birth to children, raising them, cleaning the house and if, work also, or not having time with friends. where do we get a break???? that's how some just have a meltdowns.
2007-04-04 09:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by beautywarrior_5 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Though male traditionally leads, it is more and more common nowadays to see women taking over. And honestly i think it is we the men, who are getting upset of this apparent role reversal. Women are great leaders. For me it not who is leading but rather who can do it well. If it is the man let the man do it, if its the woman let her do the leading. Mutual respect and working together is still possible, both could lead the family but as you say in instances of conflict let the better leader lead.
2007-04-04 09:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by BigBro Paul 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Ever look at the supreme court? I mean as long as you're trying to make unfair comparisons between running a home and running a country, lets look at the fact that our laws are decided by consensus, not by a single person.
Besides that, your presumption that subordination is required for a healthy relationship is erroneous and you present no evidence for it.
Lastly, no one is asking for or looking for a man 'that has to be led', they (feminists and non-feminists alike) are seeking a man who has the ability and wisdom to be a partner in a relationship rather than one who requires a subordinate.
2007-04-04 09:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 3⤋