I went with my husband to a social event with my friend Chris and her husband Steve and some other couples. Chris and Steve and us were supposed to be sitting at different tables. I came alone to my table after fixing my plate, and sat down at our table. Steve comes and sits down next to me and starts telling me how nice I look, and seems to be settling in to sit with me. Then Chris walks up and Steve suddenly stands up and says "I better go". Of course Chris has been real standoffish since this happened. I didn't do anything but go to my table. Next time he saw me later that night, he just looked at me and went just said "mmm,mmm,mmm." This guy is very handsome, but Im not interested for alot of reasons. I know we are going to run into this couple alot, and I'm not sure how to handle it.
2007-04-04 08:58:54 · 30 answers · asked by casey308 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him flat out how you feel about your husband. If he thinks there is a little wiggle room, he will try to wiggle something in somewhere.There is no such thing as a little flirting. There are several ways to start for example:
Steve, have I ever tolod you how much my husband means to me, and how glad I am to be married to him. I don't think I ever want to do anything that would possible hurt him, or jeopradize my relationship with him.
You will have to use your own words but let him know that you are not interested in anything outside of your husband.
Good marriages are to hard to get and keep. Mine lasted 44 years before my wife died of cancer two years ago.
Good luck
2007-04-04 09:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband. If you still want to see your friend only do things that only she and you are involved in and leave the guys out. I would avoid anything that he will be at, your husband should be your best help in this. Don't go to their house. Steve knows he is doing the wrong thing and you don't know how far he will go. I don't know if it would be a good idea to talk to Chris. It could hurt your friendship, she may not believe you, all sorts of things could go wrong. Sooner or latter she will realize she is married to a jerk. Be there for her when that happens.
2007-04-04 09:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anna W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one. Nothing has happened yet. Don't allow him to persue you. Simply be friendly and cordial to him, but if he ever crosses the line, make sure you put a stop to it immediately. Inform your husband of the way you feel. If you don't tell him now, and he overhears a rumor or a fact, things could get very rocky with your relationship.
Best of luck!
2007-04-04 09:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever possible make sure that you are not left alone so he can approach you, etc. even if you need to quickly get up and go stand next to someone else. It appears Chris knows her husband has a problem and tries to keep a rein on him. If he persists then you may need to say simply "Not interested, but thanks!" Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-04 09:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Chris. She deserves to know the truth, and she shouldn't be mad at you for this. She should also know that you feel her husband is hitting on you. There may be a big misunderstanding (although i doubt it), and it can only be resolved by talking to Chris about it (it may be helpful to talk to Steve and your husband).
2007-04-04 09:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 05:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by javoronkov 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend Chris needs to know that you aren't interested in her husband but he has been coming on to you. If she doesn't believe you, maybe you are better off severing the relationship with her. She needs to know what kind of man she is married to either way if she doesn't already know.
2007-04-04 09:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is the first time it has happened. I suggest telling your husband what happened and how uneasy it made you feel. Just to cover your bases, it makes it easier if he tries this again too. If he does try this again tell him that you have spoke to your husband about your last encounter and that if he tries this again you will be forced to tell his wife. Then again tell your husband what happened and what you have said to him. If he does try this again go to his wife and let her know what has happened and that you have told your husband about it and you just wanted to make her aware of how he is making you feel and that you feel it was and is disrepectful to her as well.
2007-04-04 09:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should talk to your husband about the situation so he is prepared for what may come with the rumors. Then try to talk to Chris one on one and see what is going on.
2007-04-04 09:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would act as if it never happened. If however it happens again, I would tell him if he ever came on to you again that you will cause a scene and tell your husband. I would make sure i was never alone with him again. If it gets too bad I would mention it to my husband.
2007-04-04 09:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋