I asked her if she would like to work on it with a proffesional with or without me and she said maybe down the road, I am very much in love with my wife,but, she says she needs space. I give her space but we still live together until I have enough money to move out. This is very hard. I love to touch her, kiss her and hug her. She is more stand offish most of the time. Is it over? Is there still a chance? What's the best course of action? I really don't want to lose her, but, I know it's not up to me. Please I love her and any insight is loved and welcomed.
2007-04-04 08:57:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not over until the fat lady sings (ie - the judge signs the divorce decree). Hang in there. And whatever you do, do NOT move out! If she is unhappy with you, if she is the one who wants more "space", then she should be the one who has to go out and find it.
2007-04-04 09:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't push her for kisses and hugs, that will just push her away from you. Keep asking her to go to counseling with you. It sounds like you need to give her the space she is asking for so she can figure out how she feels about you. Sorry, but it does sound like she is trying to let you down gently. Good luck...I hope she finds in her heart that she does still love you. Did you cheat or make her angry in some other way?
2007-04-04 09:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you move out your married unless she says I want a divorce or I want to seperate and see what happens you may have a chance to fix this. I would not move out soon as you do this you will lose the battle to keep her. Go to counselling tell her now! This marriage needs professional attention now tell her this. Express to her how much you love her get her a card and some flowers sometimes this strikes a cord with the ladies?. I would just tell her that you do not feel comfortable moving out if that is what she wants until you see a counsellor and get input and guidance from a pro. That you have put alot of your life and time in to this marriage and you do not want it to fail!
God Bless and Best of Luck!
P.S. Pray to God when you pray to him wonders can happen!
and he shines upon marriages.
Trust me I have had many a miracle by prayer in my own marriage.
2007-04-04 09:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
space, meaning she is not in love with you anymore, meaning something has happened so dramatic that she wants to think about moving on, can it be fixed ONLY if she wants to make it work, you DO she may not so it takes 2 give her , her space...remember there are allot of other woman in the world who don't want to say "I need space" there are allot of women in the world who would love to hear what you say as you have written... so my advice, give her the space, but don't move out work pay half the bills etc, don't leave if she wants the space have her move out, if you have kids tell her to leave the kids can stay because what will happen next IS this, she will leave ( With the kids) you'll be paying child support and life will suck money wise lets get real and this is the real deal..but hey, get 50/50 custody and your child payments will be so low you will have no worries..ok so I went deep in the future
2007-04-04 09:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. You did not say how old you both were, Is she going through the menopause?? sometimes women go like that.
Or is she seeing or attracted to someone else?
Think about how long this has been going on,Has anything changed in your relationship lately,Try to figure out how she came to feel like this.
Dont think bad about what i said about her being attracted to someone else,I'm sure if she was you would know!!!
GOOD LUCK
Hopefully it is just space she needs, a lot of women do especially if their routine is the same day in day out. She may be crying out for some attention or fun.
2007-04-04 09:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this with my husband, i told him that i did not love him anymore and the truth of it was that i needed space, 7 years with someone is a long time and after a while you start to feel smothered... women act on emotion i know for me when i felt smothered and irritated by my husband i thought that i needed to leave to think things through... that did not mean it was over, i just needed time. Maybe that is what she feels. i came around with my husband when he finally decided to change the things i told him were bothering me about him and i changed too, now i cant stand to be away from him. I think you should take this time to do some soul searching and pray.
2007-04-04 09:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by truthhurts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to know if it's over until she gets her space. Give her time and lots of space, don't overcrowd her, just go about your day. Easier said than done, right? Well, I know I needed time to figure out my feelings about my hubby and once he finally let me have some time to think without him wanting to know how I felt about him at this moment and that moment I was able to sort out my head. It made me think how much I do need and love him, just some things needed to change. Hopefully things work out for you!
2007-04-04 09:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me about 5 years ago. I was married for 7 years, then all of a sudden my ex started acting really weird and did the same thing your wife is doing now. I moved out and was completely depressed, found out my ex was dating one of my buddies! Within a couple I started living my life (going out with friends and dating other women) then all of a sudden my ex-wife wanted me back! I went back but realized that I just didn't want to be with her anymore because I was so happy without her! So I was the one who actually decided to end it!
To tell you the truth I actually missed that time of my life, I really found out who I am!!! Good Luck Buddy!!
2007-04-04 09:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by RJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you thought that maybe she has someone else in her life thats why she needs space? U seem like a loving husband and she shouldnt need space. A woman needs alot of attention and if you say that you love to touch her, kiss her and hug her, and wht else is there to offer her?....ask her if there's another man
2007-04-04 09:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by txladybug_2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there could be someone else, follow her. If you ask her she will lie cause she wont want to hurt you more. Or maybe you aren't holding up your end of the bargain. Stop whining and start doing something. Be the guy that is attractive and charming and romantic and unpredictable. Act as is if you just meet her and want to impress her. Hopefully she;ll remember what a great guy she married and want to work at it.... good luck
2007-04-04 09:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by thirdeye67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋