My husband and I have been married for 13 months. He is the one that wants the divorce. We've been separated since august and I just found out that he is living with another woman. He is in the military and is stationed across the country from me. He left me without a home and no income. What are my chances?
2007-04-04 08:31:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you deserve alimony? You don't even live with him or depend on him now. You are being greedy and vindictive. Move on.
2007-04-04 08:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not think any court would award you alimony, 13 months NO WAY
why would after only 13 months you even want alimony I am a retired military wife of 28 years, The military sees these fly by night marriages as they call em every day and I do not see you could get any thing
2007-04-04 09:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't get alimony for a **13-month** marriage in any state. The purpose of alimony is to assist women who are unable to support themselves BECAUSE they’ve been out of the work force for a SIGNIFICANT amount of time due to being a homemaker/stay-at-home mom. Alimony started out as a wonderful thing that assisted women who suddenly found themselves divorced after 10/15/20 years, but women have tried to turn it into something it was never intended to be. (and please be aware that I AM a woman, so this is not a man speaking here)
The fact that he cheated is irrelevant (as far as the court is concerned anyway)
2007-04-04 08:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alimony is different in each state, so it depends on the state you live in. Why would you want alimony? So he is a scumbag for being with someone else. But be the stronger person. You can take care of yourself!!!! I am divorced and have two children and receive no help from my ex. It feels good to know I can support and love my children and myself without "his" help.
2007-04-04 08:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ann N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact his Fist Sargeant ogn his unit, his Commander or the I.G. on the base he is station at.
Under military law (UCMJ) youa re entitrled to receive the full amount of BAH, unless he has dependent children living with him, in which case, you will only be entitled to a percentage of the BAH money (basic alowance for housing).
There is NO way he can get around without paying you his BAH. After the divorce, he is not abligated to pay you BAH. IF you don't work, you may be entitled to alimony, but you will have to seek an attorney to see if you can pull this off since you have only been married for a year.
Good luck
2007-04-04 08:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in CA and I believe that if you have been married for less than 10 years, you can only get alimony for half of the time you were married.....in your case, about 6 months. My advice is to get an attorney and take him for everything he has got. That sure was a pitiful excuse for a marriage and that is crap.
2007-04-04 08:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to take care of yourself. It's up to the judge what if any alimony you will get. If you have no kids and are capable of supporting yourself, you may not get anything. If you have been separate since August you must be working now??
2007-04-04 08:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are still married, I would expect you should be getting some kind of allotment, thus not alimony.
If you're unable to find anything here at: military.com
Try your local military branch office to steer you in the right direction of how to acquire such.
2007-04-04 08:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not especially if you have no children. He may get in trouble for the adultery if you can prove it and notify the proper authorities since he is in the military. I'd be looking for a job if I were you. He has to provide you with something till you are divorced.
2007-04-04 08:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until you are divorced he is supposed to send you his housing allowance every month. If he hasn't, contact his 1'st Sgt (if enlisted) or his commander (if he is an officer). He will have to send you 9 months of it or prove that he has done so.
IM me. I am retired military.
2007-04-04 08:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋