I am in love with her. We dated 3yrs, broke up a year ago and did the "rebound relationship"thing. They dated him for 6months & in that time her and I would have AMAZING sex. All of our friends know. They broke up. (oh she took his virginity) She is 28, he is 20, i'm 26. But they are back together now for a few weeks. I am still in love with her and I have fought for her like nonother. (please check my previous questions) She has sent me texts and things (like I still love you & wanna have sex on sunday, I can 't imagine life w/o you etc) I want him to know what she did & does behind his back,but if i say anything or send him the txts then she will never forgive me, or she'll come back, but only cuz he won't talk to her & thats not how I want to win. She has lied to him about a lot of things too. What is the right move? Sit back & wait for love to come back, or go all out? Remember I lover her but she loves & cares about 2 people. Most peeps say it won't work with him anyways so wait.
2007-04-04 08:26:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is their business, not yours. You should do nothing.~~~
At your age, you sound very immature.~~~
Remember this, The more you pursue something, the more you drive it away. Curiosity kills the cat. Let her wonder what might be going on with you. If you are not a challenge to someone, chances are they won't find you very interesting.
Are you looking to this person as a lifetime partner, someone you want to grow old with. Is this the best you can do ?
I am the Mother of 3 grown happily married sons who married ladies that make me one proud Mother-in-law~~Jill
2007-04-04 09:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't allow yourself to be part of a love triangle. She clearly gets off on this - and at the same time, is confused by this. By stepping back and choosing not to be a part of it you not only help her be able to sit back and reevaluate the situation without added stress, but you also allow yourself to sit back and breathe for a moment.
Yes, you had her first. And yes, you're still in love. But all you're doing is making it worse by letting her know you're still an option. That says to her, "I can have my b/f and my ex on the side whenever I don't feel like dealing with him."
You're selling yourself short here.
If you really want to be with her - step out of the equation until she decides you're who she wants to be with - and make sure you let her know you're not interested if she's with someone.
If she breaks up with him and comes back to you - great.
If not, move on... it may seem hard but everyone does it. The best way to do this is to keep yourself busy with friends, and yes, other girls.
Besides, think of it this way - if she'll do these things to him, whos to say you'd be so special for her not to do these things to you if you get back together.
Just keep your eyes open and stand strong when you tell her you're not an option if there's another man - plain and simple.
2007-04-04 08:35:21 · answer #2 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first, does your reveal call quite & quite mean the variety you, your self, quite & quite experience? If it does, then tell that lame-*** to kick rocks, beat ft, to haul *** & tell his tale strolling!! different than that, once you're a tramp & a mendacity **** who only will have faith something, even fried ice cream, & you have no project being a cheat & that's all on the subject of the particular element & no longer something, then a minimum of have the decency to describe all that to the guy you're at the instant with so he does not run the possibility of having His thoughts all trampled if he starts off questioning yo're quite properly worth having an honest & eye-catching, loving & trusting variety of courting with. I advise, only cuz you're keen to be shallow & ordinary to boink does not inevitably advise he's, y'be attentive to &, who is conscious, once you're open & honest with him approximately it, he might only atke pity on ya & throw you the bone each now & then after Mr. Loser drops you lower back (as long as he has some commercial capability condoms available)
2016-10-21 00:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it sounds like your nuts for this girl, but think about the kind of person she is. What makes you think she wont cheat on you? It sounds like she is confused about who she should be with so she may not really love you, just infatuated with you. I'd just sit back and wait for love, Next time she wants sex just tell her no until she chooses between her boyfriend and you if she truely loves you she will choose you, Love works in mysterious ways, GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-04 08:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her mess then let her fix it. Just stay out of it. If you still love her then let her go and if she returns in time then you will know she is yours but if you can't wait for her then move on.
2007-04-04 09:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with her. She cheats on him and she will cheat on you. Let it go and move on. She is a player and you have said she lies. You will see that you really didn't love her, we just want what we can't have. You deserve better.
2007-04-04 08:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. She's being dishonest with both of you.
Is that someone you can respect? Or is it simply the amazing sex/lust?
2007-04-04 08:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise that you stay out of this. It is not your place to tell him of her infidelity. He needs to find out on his own.
2007-04-04 08:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by sweettexas2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lied to HIM, how do you know she's not lying/going to lie to YOU? Don't be stupid... you're free, run away FAST.
2007-04-04 08:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and sweet - stay out of it.
2007-04-04 08:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋