My roomates boyfriend is visiting and hes staying with us for a week. I went to work, but came home early, and I caught him using my bathroom and he was in my room using my computer and watching my television. what the hell???? He looked so guilty he was speechless. I told him its okay, but Im mad as all hell..........what would you do????
2007-04-04 08:05:39 · 38 answers · asked by KIWI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you roommate said it was OK, then it's OK to use all that.
You would need to speak with the roommate to settle this siiue
2007-04-04 08:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first guy has the best answer and it is well written, basically what's done is done and you need to move on from there. Next step is to talk to your roomate and set some ground rules from here on out so that things like this don't happen again. You should be mad but once that has gone you just need to deal with what can be done from here. No one should be in your room if you are not there and the same goes for your roomate no one should be in her room either if she is not there it is just a respect thing.
Good luck I am sure all can be worked out.
2007-04-04 08:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set down proper rules. If it wasn't discussed before what boundaries you want, now's the time. You don't need to be mean - he doesn't sound like a bad guy. But just discuss that your room is not public space and you'd appreciate it if he doesn't go in there. If he continues to abuse your hospitality, ask your roommate to have him leave.
Don't stay mad, if you can help it. Maybe he had a real need to use your computer, if there wasn't another one around. Try to have a good time with him while he's there, if possible.
2007-04-04 08:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Steven D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How big is this place? Most apartments have one bathroom if he used it big whooping deal. Does your roomate have a television in her room or a computer? You haven't given us many facts to draw a sensible conclusion if he had been in the kitchen eating food would you be yelling that it was your food?
2007-04-04 08:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not doing anything wrong, if you want your property to be off limits to him, then tell him.
Shut your bedroom door and shut your bathroom door and tell him that he is not allowed to go in your private rooms.
Although if the bathroom is the only one in the house, then where is he supposed to go? Talk to your friend and tell her to talk to him about how much it bothers you that he is using your stuff.
Talking to him would help also! Just be honest.
If you communicate with him, then you will find out that there is no hard feelings, but if you keep this bottled up, then the anger will only come between you and your friendship with your friend.
2007-04-04 08:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay down the ground rules for your apartment and if he does it again, put a key lock on your door. I used to have a roommate that would invite her boyfriend over for a week at a time, have s3x in the room next to me and when I would go home on the weekends he would eat my food. I would tell my roommate about it and I asked her to replace it she did it once and when he continued to do it again I asked her to replace it again, she said no that I would not eat it anyway. At that point I put a key lock on my door and they never did it again.
2007-04-04 08:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to stress over it just this once, but make sure he knows that it's not acceptable to do it again. He's a guest there and those are your things. If he wants to use it, he has to ask. Lay down the rules and make sure he knows them.
Some people just don't know how to be good guests.
Just as some people don't know how to be good hosts.
2007-04-04 08:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by MusoManiac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remained calm at the the time so you handled it well. I would talk to your roommate about leaving your personal space alone and tell her you were upset that he entered your room without your consent. She needs to be the one to handle it and if she won't then get a lock for your door.
2007-04-04 08:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told him it's okay even though you're mad?
How well do you know this guy? Can you sit him down and tell him you really value your privacy and that you'd appreciate him keeping himself out of your living space?
If not, then talk to your roommate instead.
2007-04-04 08:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your room mate to maybe settle down some ground rules...is there 2 bathrooms or what?? and maybe u can talk to your roomie to tell the bf to stay in his bedroom and not yours.
unless he doesnt have a computer...just talk to your roomie.
sheesh. it's not that hard.
2007-04-04 08:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lay the rules down and tell him to ask you before you leave for work ... dont worry id be mad too if someone messed with my stuff
~good luck
2007-04-04 08:10:25 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋