i have been married a little over a month and eveytime i check his email he has a new personal ad he has signed up for
2007-04-04 06:56:43 · 27 answers · asked by arkansasgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he didn't need to get married and I would consider a divorce because it does not sound as if it's going to end... If he is doing this now what else will he do??? This is coming from another man..
2007-04-04 07:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by kenny_in_south_park 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure it is him that is signing up for the ads. My email was used by I don't know who for a while for personal ads, and I had to keep getting them unsubscribbed. I never found out who it was, but if my boyfriend had been checking my email, I'm sure he would have thought the same as you. I talked with him about it just incase, but talk to your husband. It could even be info that keeps coming in from profiles he used to have before you and never got around to deleting. If he is really still doing the ads though, you need to make it know that this is not acceptable, and if he choses to keep this up, that you will have to file for an annulment or divorce. Infidelity is wrong. Period. And not fair to you on any level. :( You deserve better than that.
2007-04-04 07:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what you have to do, get the marriage anulled, you haven't been married long. I would print out copies of the emails too so that when he tries to deny it you can have physical proof...and when he says you shouldn't have been going through his email checking up on him I would simply state that you have no reson to trust him and two wrongs don't make a right...and he wronged FIRST!
Tell the sap goodbye and find a better man, don't let him talk you into staying by promising it won't happen again...it always happens again.
2007-04-04 07:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a reason you checked his e-mail and my guess would be lack of trust. Why did you marry him if you didn't trust him? Because you thought it would make a difference?
You are headed for divorce as he is not ready to be married. May as well go get an annulment now and move on before you invest more time in a dead end relationship and learn from this. Next time, see what is there in front of you, not what you want to see.
2007-04-04 07:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This early in your marriage you need to get the communication lines open and running. Tell him that you went on the computer and say his e-mails (and yes it was an invasion of privacy but married couples shouldn't have need for that kind of privacy). And that you are concerned that he has signed up for these ads. Let him explain, and if you accept his explanation let him know it bothers you and you would like him to stop. If his explanation is lame, I'd say get yourselves to a counsellor before this becomes a real thorn in your marriage. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-04 07:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not going to let a little thing like marriage slow down his dating schedule.
If he's trolling for playmates after only a month of marriage, you got yourself a problem that can only get worse. But instead of just kicking his sorry butt out the door, have a little fun first.
Sign-up at whatever site(s) he's visiting. Create your own profile complete with fake name and picture. Contact him through that site and arrange to meet him. If he doesn't take the bait that means he's only window shopping to get his sad rocks off. If he does, be waiting for him with divorce papers in hand.
2007-04-04 07:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he will confirm nothing and deny everything, so print everything out so when you confront him, he can't deny it.
He thinks he's doing nothing wrong. You need to let him know how you feel about it, that this IS a dealbreaker. If he wants to save the marriage, insist on marriage counseling and all accounts must be deleted. If he's not agreeable, ask him which of you is filing for divorce?
Sorry you have to go through this.
2007-04-04 07:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him in a non-confronting way if he has ever used any personal ads to meet women. Do not act like you have checked his e-mail, nor should you tell him. That's like going through his wallet. If he does not clean, keep checking, then decide if you should see an attorney.
2007-04-04 07:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're technically still on your honeymoon!!! If you're having these kind of problems this early in your marriage, they're never going to get any better. I hate to tell anybody this but that's just plain ridiculous! If he requires reassurance from other women via personal ads and email correspondence, he needs to continue his emotional, "potentially" physical affairs...not a wife.
2007-04-04 07:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by aka_emt332 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been married under 6 months, get the marriage annulled on grounds of fraud.
Collect that info, print it out, bring it to a lawyer and have the lawyer draw up the paper work.
2007-04-04 07:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋