help been marry for 20 years i don't know what to do anymore.everything that i do comes and bite me in the as...................thank you for your help.
2007-04-04 06:26:12 · 26 answers · asked by Rafique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good question, I have been married for 14 years and we still are working on our relationship daily. I dont know what the circumstances are so I cant say either way.
2007-04-04 06:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by I am woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's blaming you, then he's not accepting responsiblity for his part in the relationship.
Consider marriage counseling. Also here's some reading material to consider:
Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love by Sue Ellen Page
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman
Love in the Present Tense: How to Have a High Intimacy, Low Maintenance Marriage, Shechtman
Relationship Rescue by Phil McGraw
2007-04-04 06:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darn 20yrs...Good for you obviously you took ur vows seriously..Do you think that life is peaches and cream? We have to have ups and downs in out life to keep it right. I don't know a relationship that is perfect..look and is, is two different things. My problem here is what is it that u are doing that bite u in the ***? Are you cheating? If you are then , that is not cool. I know u love ur wife, been there for 20yrs so that says a lot. Try getting some help it what ur thinking is divorce. Counseling/Therapy if you have a problem or Rehab . Now sometime women make it see like it is all the guys fault and is not is this the case here? You should now when ur right and wrong. Good luck..and think before you do anything that is going to bite you in the ***...
2007-04-04 06:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Well could you please be more specific about what comes back to bite you in the ***?*
.I will try and answer this to the best of my ability...lol..but it sounds like it's one of two things or both that's letting karma kick you in the ***.
1. You have been doing some cheating or just sneaking around and you keep getting caught, so now you're acting all weird about it.
2. OR you have been nothing but a saint in your marriage and you feel you've done and said everything you can to make your wife happy and make your marriage work, and yet you feel like your wife doesn't appreciate what you do for her or your household...and how hard you work etc. So now you are upset about that, and wondering why it's that way.
**So since you didn't give me a clear question to answer, I gave you answers that I think might relate to what you are trying to ask.....or maybe what is going on w/ your marriage.**
Anyways I hope you figure out .......
2007-04-04 06:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 00:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People offer the solution of divorce after 20 years of marriage. Talk to him and if he doesn't listen knock him in the head with a frying pan. NO honestly you need to talk to him, he has started taking you for granted, you are the closest to him so he will. After 20 years of marriage, you should be able to talk and be open and honest. Even in shorter marriages communication gets put to the side for other more important things, its time for you and he to remember what you are together for and who each other is again. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-04-04 06:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your man isn't happy with himself and you're his own personal scapegoat. Everything that goes wrong in your marriage couldn't possibly be your fault.
He needs to get his priorities straight and start looking for the real source of the problem instead of always placing the blame on you.
2007-04-04 06:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by aka_emt332 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the movie "the secret"? It's about how we attract whatever we think about into our lives... You can go to www.thesecret.tv and buy it online for 5 bucks... Anyway, the only thing you can do is to try to find better feeling thoughts about relationships, otherwise, you're going to continue to attract relationships that are complicated, and that do go wrong.
2007-04-04 06:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by CoachSteve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I think sometimes mine lives for correcting me or proving me wrong, but I gotta tell ya, you must be doing SOMETHING right, cuz I've been married twice, and combined they didn't add up to 20 years yet! Kill her with kindness. Make her wonder why you're being such a sweetheart, and she'll start to see the mean beotch she's being to you. :)
2007-04-04 06:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the fine print in your birth certificate. It should read: "When ever anything, anywhere goes wrong, I am responsible."
Just kidding. Relax if you were perfect, you would be in the Smithsonian Museum under glass. Life is just that life. You may not be responsible for everything that goes wrong, you are just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Lighten up on yourself, ENJOY YOUR LIFE.
2007-04-04 06:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋