One more general question about sex???

Question

In my previous question I've asked whether men gets orgasm first or women, and many people have answered that its men who reaches first, and very few women reaches to it that too in a cunninglus, and others just fake to reach it, then how the woman enjoy sex, I mean if they cant reach to orgasm they cannt feel the pleasure of it, and the basic qustion is why they cannt reach to it, i just want my partner to enoy it as well as i do so what should I do during ..so that she will also enjoy the way I do and reach to climax...
thanks fo answers...

Answer 1

I think sometimes that women who have not had orgasms do not understand what one is and what brings one on.


First realize that women and men view sex differently.

For most men it is the act and the orgasm that counts. For many women sex begins before foreplay even begins.

In that I mean it's how you treat her as a person. How caring, considerate and loving you are out of the bedroom.

Many women get satisfaction without orgasm because they are being intimate with their mate. They are being kissed and touched. Many times I think men forget that women Need to be kissed for no reason and touched, hands held, arm around the shoulder, or just a pat on the arm in passing.

There is a line in an old country western song: "It takes a slow hand...... " Women's libido just is not built for speed. Sometimes we enjoy fast passionate sex but most of the time it is going to be the slow gentle rhythm that floats our boats.

Physically you need to pay attention to where her hot points are. Probably kissing deeply. The back of her neck.... the nipples, the clitoris. Finally stimulus of the clitoris is what will bring on the final climax.

It is very wonderful that you are concerned for your partners enjoyment as much as your own. While the sex is important part of a healthy commited relationship, how you treat out of the bedroom as I commented above is just as important to a woman as the actual act of sex.

Answer 2

Most women do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. You have to learn how to help her achieve one before you enter her or else it's all over for her. Once she has climaxed you can both relax and it's possible that she may come a second time during intercourse. Try her on top and try stimulating her during intercourse - that could help. You should have an honest relationship also and talk about it with her. If she has been faking it for your ego, then tell her to stop that. Some women just have a hard time letting go and enjoying sex. Some women never come at all. Get your girl a good vibrator and encourage her to "practice". Once she knows how to climax on her own she can coach you and hopefully you'll be able to please her during sex. Good luck!

Answer 3

Whoever said s*x is NOT a very important part of a relship is WRONG! Even people who claim s*x is not important, well guess what, once their spouse cheat on them they are going to get the wake up call. Sadly though, even when someone is getting enough s*x from their own partner, sometimes they still cheat anyways just because they like to have more options or just because the opportunity is there. You have to remember something, when a couple assume they are in a monogamous relationship, cheating should not be a part of the deal. So when suddenly someone breaks that deal the other person will get this feeling of betrayal or loss of trust. And many relship ends b/c the trust is non-existence. Having sex with somone other than your partner (or so-called cheating) is just one (& the most common) way to lose that trust- but there are also other less common reasons, like stealing. Let's say you claim that having money or material possesion is really not that important. Would you still be interested in having a relship with someone who all of the sudden steals from you....? Could you still trust him (or her)? If you couldn't then wouldn't it be easier to end the relship and move on to the next, hopefuly a more trustworthy person? Make sense?

Answer 4

It's true only about 12% of women can reach an orgasm during intercourse. Most women need clit stimulation to achieve one. Sex nonetheless feels good to women. It's like eating food. It takes good while eating it and then you just reach a point of satisfaction and you're done. No big firework display... just content. This is why women want sex less than men. Maybe try oral before you have sex so that way she is closer to climaxing. It helps sometimes. Good luck!

Answer 5

IMO men and women are different in the sense that men are easily stimulated and thus can reach orgasm fast. However for a woman, they like to have the care and love from her partner shows, something more at the spiritual level.

So it doesn't matter that your partner can reach orgasm or not. If she could feel your love, that's already the best way to stimulate her.

Answer 6

I'm assuming your a guy. That you bother to ask says a lot. At least you are trying most men has long as they get what they want they don't care about the partner. If you know you are open minded about sex. You should have no problems. The best answers to what you ask can only come from her. Talk to her notice when you have sex what she likes or dislikes. No one can tell you exactly what will work. What one woman likes another one can hate. Same thing goes for men. One man can be turned on by something that a female does, do the same thing to another and he shies away.

Answer 7

Women are biologically built to take longer to achieve orgasm. It's not your fault. Also, sex can be very pleasurable even without reaching orgasm.

If you really care, talk to her about it, but don't act overly concerned and vulnerable. If you do, she may say some things to just try to spare your feelings. Be as a matter of fact as possible, and ask for ideas or things that she would like to try.

Asking us what will work for your girl is sort of a crap shoot, because every woman is different.

Answer 8

To be very simple, ask her. Most women know what they like, what feels good. If you have a honest, comfortable relationship, she should be able to tell you. It may be hard at first, especially if you've never talked about these kinds of issues before. Pick a quiet time, not just before or just after and bring it up gingerly. If she's not willing to say, maybe have her show you during the act by moving your hand or whatever. In the long run, it will be better for your relationship as a whole.

Answer 9

It is a good sign that you are trying to find out how to ensure your lady enjoys sex just as much as you.

Some women find oral pleasure prior to penetration is best for them. Many women only orgasm with clitoral stimulation while.

The most important thing to do is to find out, by asking her, what she likes or does not like. If she is not certain because of limited sexual experience, then go rent or buy a porn movie and learn by watching it together, see what she might want to try, and just try out anything from the movie that either of you think is interesting.

You could also go to an Adult store and buy toys, lotions, and foreplay games.

Keep in mind that if you don't get her sexually excited then she is not going to enjoy the experience or have an orgasm.

Answer 10

Here's what you should do...take care of your partner first. It's often easier for men to climax than women. Bring your partner to orgasm first, whether it's with oral, mutual masturation, using toys or whatever. Many women do not climax from intercourse alone.