Question for all guys.....why married a woman that you don't trust to begin with?

Question

I don't understand why a guy would marry a woman if he doesn't even trust her financially. Why is that? But when we girls ask you guys why--ya would respond with a 'yes, we love you and that ya are ready to begin a family of our own and that ya do love us.' How can that still be? Ya all GUYS explain that to me!!!

Answer 1

Its because we've been taught a simple way to handle a complicated problem, namly loving ourselves and the other people in our lives. We've been feed for a long, long time that all a relationship needs is love. Its not till were at the divorce attornies office that we finally begain to see, wow theres so much more to this, I give up! Then spend the rest of our lives trying to avoid love. Fact is love is nothing more then mans way of explaining the sum whole of all the feelings that he feels for an entity. So really its the word that screws us into believing its a simple thing, when in fact it is a lot of things. From how you feel about her in the morning to how you feel about her at night, from when she's yelling at you, to when she is cuddling with you. All this experience come together to form the "love" we feel. Its more then promises, it actual comes down to history, but if come from a family with nothing but bad history, you come to expect that in a relationship. Unfornatly its only a matter of time before a person starts to relize wow I deserve better then this, I just don't know what.... but I'm trying to simplify a complicated problem....