GIRLS...if you OR have ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?

Question

If you have ever been torn between 2 guys how did you pick which guy to go to? Did it work? I'm a guy who dated a girl for 3yrs. We broke up a year ago, and she had a rebound relationship with someone else. They lasted about 6 months. Durrng then she & I stayed close and even had lots of sex. she said she still loved me. Well they broke up and she stayed in contact with him. She is 28 he is 20 and Im 26. She is back with him, so is this a rebound again? will it work? I love her with all my heart and she knows that. So, what do I do? I've chased her, bought her things, been there to listen and help etc. She has lied & I forgave her. I know you need to know more but we could be here all day. You can also get a little more info from my previous question if you look at my profile. Please help me, I'm going crazy and I don't want to loose her by being away but don't want to be annoying her by being on top of her all the time

Answer 1

Yes, I have been in love with 2 men at once. I, in the end, dumped both and continued my life as a single woman. It isn't fair to choose one over the other. (IE - Bob is a better man than Jim.) Which wouldn't be true at all. I figured that I was the deficient one and really wasn't good enough for either of them if I could put them through the mental anguish of waiting until I made up my mind. Nothing is more unattractive than wishywashy behavior.

Answer 2

Although it is possible to love two people at the same time, it never ends well. I hate to tell you this sweetie, but you have got to move on. This kind of a situation will only get ugly. She may be the type of girl that wants what she cannot have, and therefor is flip flopping between the two of you. Go to your doctor and get on some anti depressants. It will help you through the bad time. But you really do need to walk away. Get on with your life. If she ever straightens out what it is she wants, and grows up, then you can always attempt a relationship later on. But for right now, you need to walk away.

Answer 3

The best thing you could do right now is back off and give her some time to decide who she wants to be with. It's possible that your constant attention has only made her go back with the other guy. Maybe because he's younger and she doesn't feel pressured with him. When it happened to me I needed time away from both guys to just sort out my feelings. Since you can't make that happen, the best you can do is let her know that you're bowing out of the "competition" and that she should call you when she's made up her mind. In the meanwhile you should go out with other women and try to get on with your life. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

If you really love her, then tell her that and then back off. She knows that she has control of your emotions right now and that is a real high for any one in a strange way. They want what they cannot have and sometimes make the mistake of picking the wrong one and then it will be too late, you will have moved on...that happened to me in my marriage. It is so hard to sick back and NOT be with the one you love, but it will make you a stronger person and that means it was not meant, trust me. You will find happiness and strength either way you go. Good Luck Sweetie and hang in there.

Answer 5

I think you should back off. It's the thrill of the chase. Every time she gets bored with one of you she goes back to the other. If she knows you're there always waiting for her, she doesn't need to show you any attention, she figures you're not going anywhere. To me she sounds like the type of person who is always seeking that initial feeling of a relationship, who will never be with one person for long, and if she is, probably won't be faithful. If you're ok with a life of being cheated on and left, then being returned to, then everything should be fine. Stop forgiving her, she's using you as back up whenever she needs you.

Answer 6

Yeah genuinely, notwithstanding it turned right into a lengthy time period in the past and there have been 4 those who lived jointly and all slept interior a similar mattress. We were infrequently ever domicile jointly nonetheless so it became merely extremely crowded from time to time. i imagine I loved 2 more advantageous on the instant also. some issues are merely too strong to bear in mind LoL

Answer 7

When people fall "in love" they are NOT in love the person as much as they are in love with the IDEA of what their life will be with that person.

It takes years to really know someone. Loving someone accepting them for who they are.

So "loving" and "in love" are NOT the same thing.

Women want to be treated like equals and thus want to be with someone who is equal to them.

Women like the "Help", but they don't love the "Servant".

Attraction is created when you want to be around someone because they have what you feel you lack i.e happiness, charm, strength of character ...etc.

No one or thing can MAKE someone else happy.

Happiness is an emotion and comes from within like optimism.

Making your girlfriend happy is NOT you job.

The harder you try to make someone happy the more you will fail.

If you are happy and confident you are seen as sexier and more attractive.

If you want her to love you, then you need to have her focus on you not your money or your gifts. Treat her like any of your friends and you will then be treating her like an equal.

Remember women want to be with an equal and if you are happy and confident then that's even better.

So stop giving and start having her give to you.

There are only two things of any value: Attention and Time.

Answer 8

yupz. totally regreted the rebound. cause nothing can be compared to the love i had with my real boyfriend of the many years. i still very much in love with him but he is gone now cause he is too afraid i might cheat again.

chase after her,tell her how you feel. cause if you dont, things may be too late. good luck.

Answer 9

ive been in love with two guys at once they both had different things i like chances are shell be back to you but i think you should move on if she that old and nit in a real relationship she has some commitment issues

Answer 10

I have never been in love with two people at once, but it is possible. you should give her some time to decide what she wants to do. don't pressure her, the situation is confusseing enough as it is.