Should I feel guilty and Men please help out.?

Question

I intended to destroy her marriage like she had mine and tipped off her husband that she was cheating. Didnt say with who neither did I reveal my self to him.
However it seems he had been tracking his wifes movements because he confronted her and was clear with whom she was having an affair.
My husband is angry with me bse he says I betrayed him to another Mans wife, I denied the accusation bse I did not even give the guy any information.He has since left home that the other guy is threatening to kill him.
Should I feel guilty and Men was it so wrong of me, what wld u do if yr wife tipped off the other guy? Is it really the problem or the fact that you have been cheating on your wife?Main issue is the other Guy has all evidence against my husband and not from me.
I do not intend to ask him back bse he is not even sorry.
Please help me and share with me out there.

Answer 1

I'm vengeful ... and I'd probably feel the opposite of guilt: vindicated. But, it would be short-lived. Spite makes us feel like we've regained our dignity; but it really doesn't help us address our root issue.

I'm convinced that spite originates from our narcissistic exploitation of the inner child's wish to belong and to be of use to a strong parent. Out of a sense of shame, powerlessness, and resulting fatalism, the spiteful person embarks on a life of reactive passivity rather than one of straightforward self-assertion. Our spite becomes a struggle to recapture our individual dignity through an opposition to power on which one depends and by which one feels entrapped The self-destructiveness of spite may have the purpose of arousing and punishing the conscience of the powerful, exploiting other.

So a better way of handling this would have been a direct confrontation with your husband. It may have been resolvable. You'll feel guilt over not having taken the 'straightforward self-assertive' approach to the crisis.

Answer 2

Ahh!! Sweet revenge nothing like it in the world . Just don't make a hobby of it . I believe your husband is the betrayer you just finishing up the job ,He should have gotten 10 lashes for his foul deed also but as long as the other guy is looking for him then well i guess that's good enough for the cheater You play and you pay .

Well whats dun is dun. Time for you to move on with your life to hell with him its your turn to live .Do not let hate take over your life for every action there is an opposite and equal reaction so stay clear of it all . Good going you did good

Answer 3

Depends on if you did it for the right reasons. If you did it for revenge, then you should feel some guilt . If you did it to help the other husband know about it and deal with it, then you shouldn't feel guilty. The husband should have the right to know what is going on.
Your husband should be full of guilt and the anger should be at himself and not you. He sounds like he was in it for only him and doesn't see how many lives he has affected. Perhaps one day he'll get his punishment but until then, move on, your better off without him in the long run.

Answer 4

Gawd - you should slap your husband a good one for cheating on YOU! I'm going with the assumption that you think this girl destroyed your marriage so you are upset that your husband was cheating.

Divorce him and get half his stuff.

In the USA you should be able to get a good settlement because the other guy has all the evidence already! :-)

Answer 5

Let's put it this way. He is the one who strayed, so in what rights is he mad with you?

There are thousands and one way to track affairs. Coincidental sightings and private investigators are just some of them.

You have already came to a conclusion that you will not be asking him back since he is not repentent. So why should you feel guilty?

Answer 6

This is a case of when people should mind their damn business. Go get a hobby stop trying to make someone as miserable as you are. If you didn't do anything why even bother trying to break up their home. karma is real. It's gonna come around

Answer 7

I swear.....the games people play! Astonishing! It's funny to me that when a spouse cheats people blame the person they were cheating with! Bottom line is if you're dishonest, deceitful, untrustworthy, and a liar, then there are ALWAYS consequences. If you want to make things worse and focus your time and energy making people miserable (instead of focusing on your kids, your job, your life) then be my guest. But what goes around comes around. It ALWAYS does!

Answer 8

I don't think it is wrong, I would have done the same thing. The husband deserved to know. And you should have thrown your sorry, cheating husband out the minute you found out. Who cares if he is mad at you? You should be furious with him!

Answer 9

did you realize they have a spell checker in this??? i did no longer study lots previous your first sentence. besides, men are human beings, they have thoughts, and doubtless have extra thoughts than females do. of path they experience guilt. it easily relies upon on what he got down to do interior the 1st place. If he achieved his objectives, likely he won't experience responsible, yet while he extremely believes he harm somebody, confident, he will experience undesirable.

Answer 10

I think you did the right thing.She had a right to know.He is ashamed and he knows he screwed up.Hes mad at him self and taking it out on other people.The only way he knows how to channel that energy is through anger.As to him leaving he was just waiting for a reason.he gave up to soon.