Does Gay Bashing raise self esteem and or self respect?

Question

I was just curious if this was true. I have to be honest I use to gay bash as a kid, and it made me feel so bad that I would cry. So I decided to be true to myself and come out. To this day I wondered what went through those getting picked on. You know, like do you take it personal, or do you just ignore it

Then I'm curious about those who bash (big grin). You know exactley who you are! What goes through your mind as you get on here abnd type away your frustrations and fears. Are you concerned that you may be gay or curious? I know how you feel, I use to be pressured into making comments about others. But then I realized why I did it. It was becasue I was gay. I didn't want anyone to know so I put up this homophobic front, and I thought no one would suspect it then. Well I hate making fun of others, and so I stopped doing it and I beame true to myself. Bashers, what is your excuse? Why do you bash us and then report us?

Community and friends please feel free to comment.

I'm looking for honesty not imaturity.

Answer 1

FRONTLINE has reproduced this
"Wright, Adams, and Bernat Homophobia Scale"

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/etc/quiz.html

Check it out!

Answer 2

DJ - clearly there is something that is released when a person bashed another person, be that person gay or not. Endorphins circulate throughout the veins, fueling a person to continue doing what they are doing. Like many things, for many reasons, it therefore becomes addictive, as you reach a 'natural high'. The more you bash, the higher you become, the more extreme you become.

I'm glad you came clean with yourself and that you're prepared to comment on it here, be warned, you might not get an overly warm reception.

And I don't take it personally, when we're talking about verbal bashing. I consider people who stoop to that level to be uneducated and afraid.

I'm lucky, I've never been physically bashed. Thereagain, there aren't many people I know who want to tackle a 6'1 Lesbian!

Answer 3

Well, I was gay bashed in high school, right in class in front of my classmates. The teacher had left the room so it could happen. Very long story about the circumstances... To put it short, it messed me up a bit. It was a very long time ago, but it seriously affected who I was, and I developed a pretty intense case of social anxiety. I have pretty much gotten over it, and I hate to admit how it affected me, what with all the bashers that frequent this place, but you asked. No, I doubt very seriously that most people who are bashed can actually "ignore it," however well they act as if they can. In the long run, it made me a stronger person, and I can weather pretty much anything.

I saw the ringleader years later at a gay bar in town, and I got him ran out of it. That was quite vilifying. I can't say I was surprised to see him there.

One of my friends back home was raped and beaten with a tire iron by a group of army guys and left naked in a ditch to die. He survived, but still bears scars to this day. He went through years of physical therapy, and had a colostomy for a long time. He still lived life after wards, however, and managed to be happy.

Overall, I think that those of us who have been bashed are made stronger because of it, which of course is the reverse of what is intended by the evil people who do it.

I am glad you have managed to come to terms with who you are, but wish circumstances would have allowed you to be stronger willed sooner, rather than later. It's the world we live in, the environment in which we are raised. I don't condemn you for your actions, but would like to know if you have attempted to make amends to any of those you hurt.

Answer 4

I always thought this was kind of obvious. The folks who deny it the most, are the ones who are gay. Take the recent preacher who "converted" folks, but had a clandestine life sleeping with a man for $ and doing drugs. He felt so bad about it, he had to get f---d up to let himself do what he really felt. It's kind of how the prez points the evil finger at everyone BUT himself. Yeah, right.

Answer 5

that's somewhat known for individuals with low self-properly worth responsible themselves for each thing that is going incorrect, additionally apologise lots even whilst they do no longer seem to be at fault. What you're able to do is settle for as lots credit for the belongings you get stunning and do properly. that's a case of accentuating the beneficial. you will then start to understand that as quickly as human beings call you stupid or the like, they're quite deflecting the blame or interest from themselves. start to compliment your self, quietly, for the failings you get stunning and do properly, as many times as you beat your self up for the belongings you shrink to rubble. you will quickly detect a extra efficient stability. normally people who attempt to make others look undesirable do with the objective to make themselves experience extra efficient. attempt being as style to your self as you in all probability are to human beings. rejoice your skills, you write properly for a start up. And waste capability on people who don't have your best hobbies at coronary heart. existence isn't a attractiveness contest, that's approximately doing the best you could. i think of you have a greater techniques and a extra beneficiant spirit than some on your existence. this is properly worth a pat on the back.

Answer 6

No gay bashing here. I am a Christian and it is not right to do so. We do not agree with the lifestyle but it is no reason to bash someone. All the more reason to love on them and pray for them because of the demonic bondage they are in.

Answer 7

I guess it makes the 'basher' feel superior. People who make fun of others usually don't feel good about themselves.

Gays are also a target because SOME Christian fundamentalists provoke others in the name of God.

Answer 8

YES IT DOES I HAD SOME FRIENDS THEY WENT OUT ONE NIGHT AND THEY BEAT THE HELL OUT OF SOME GAYES THEY SAID IT FELT SO GOOD THEY COULD NOT STOP NOW THEY DO IT ALL THE TIME JUST FOR FUN AND THE FUNNY THING IS ALL THESE WOMEN THAT DO THIS ARE GAYE THEY JUST LOVE TO BEAT THE HELL OUT OF GAYE MEN . I DONT GET IT BUT THEY DO. OH BY THE WAY ONE OF THEM GOT CUT IN A GAYE BASHING AND IS NOW DYING OF AIDES POETIC JUSTICE OR WHAT ..