my boyfiend of 2 years is uninterested what do i do?

Question

He used to be very chivalrous and gentlmanly but as time has went by he is just not putting in the work that i am any suggestions on how to make him do his share in the relation ship?

Answer 1

I'm going to kind of "ditto" the previous answer:

The most common problems of familiarity:

1. Men & women stop acting like confident, affectionate, respectful and occassionaly romantic gentlemen & ladies, and this leads to their mate feeling taken for granted, and it lowers their interest in them.

2. Men and women often allow themselves to be turned into servants and doormats trying to please their mate, but this leads to them resenting their mate and feeling less affectionate toward them.

3. Some men and women and become nagging, controlling, jealous and manipulative, and this causes their mate to resent them, and they become less affectionate.

Note: becoming less affectionate is not the problem; it is a symptom of some behavior problem within the relationship. Sometimes it's pure inexperience at work, and at other times it's deeper ingrained problems with the individuals.

Ideally, we'd all be paired up with confident, humorous and mostly positive, interesting, self-assured, affectionate and self-disciplined mates. The reality is a bit less inspiring however, and it's very difficult to address the problems when you are caught up in a negatively suggestible, defensive emotional cycle. For example, if not handled properly, efforts to address fundamental problems can come across as overly critical or as desperately needy (which they often are by the time people recognize the need to address them).

Answer 2

We miss the pursuit as during that time our man makes us feel special, sexy, adored and loved. We feel important in their life and that we are a priority. This always changes as time goes on and it's natural. However, he should still make an effort to give you attention. I don't know of any way to make anyone do anything. If you have told him that you would like to have a date night with him and would like to feel like you are a priority in his life right up there with Nascar Racing, and he still doesn't make any effort, well, I don't think there is anything you can do. Try to just live your life and stay busy. Maybe he will notice you are not around if you are busy and are happy with your friends and activities.

Good luck. You are not alone. All of us go through this to some extent. Men think women change because we don't want sex as often and haven't realized it is because the attention they gave us has stopped and without it we are not in the mood for sex as for us, it is how we are treated that matters, not visual. So, men think we have changed and we also think they have changed. It takes two to make it work but I don't know of anyway to make the other person do their part.

Answer 3

Put your self in his shoes and see what you would want him to do if you were the one uninterested!! Well in my relationship is in the reverse order. I am the one that is feeling uninterested... For me I want my boyfriend to make the relationship a little more lively, and a little more interesting... Spice things up a little. That is just my suggestion but may not work in all cercumstances.. The best bet is to be open and honest and tell him that you are feeling that he has become uninterested and see if there is any helping the situation!

Answer 4

Stop giving him attention and stop making him feel like a man. If he is not going to make you feel like a lady any more, just act like a roommate. No touches, no kisses, no romantic dinners, and for heavens sake, do not act desperate or like you are begging.

Answer 5

the "honeymoon" is over!