Hey, I am in online relationship with a lady for an year by now. we are so passionate. I am married and having a lovely wife and kids. But, with my online girl also my relation ship so intimate so passionate. I am not able to leave. I love my family also, at the same time that lady also. I am spending time for both. The online lover knows how much i love my family, she is also married, equally loving her hubby. But osme how we both are so much attracted. Am i doing a right thing.
2007-04-04 05:15:43 · 11 answers · asked by judylover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you aren't doing the right thing. You're having an emotional affair with each other. It would be better for both of you to put all that energy and passion into the relationship with your spouses, that's the real thing. Just say your good-byes and click off forever. It will be difficult at first, and you'll miss each other a great deal, but as time goes on, and you fill your time with your family, the online relationship will fade into the past.
2007-04-07 02:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you were doing the right thing you would know that you are and obviously your not. The only reason the relationship with this online person is so passionate is because its a new person. Just like when you met your wife and first got married, you loved each other and you were crazy in love and it should have been a very intimate relationship. But now you've been married a while and settled down and had kids and its not the same. Its not like when you were dating or just married. You have responsibility now and its hard trying to raise a family and have a intimate relationship with your wife. But think of your wife, would you want her having passionate relationships with other men online? Stop thinking about yourself and think about your wife and kids. Imagine telling your kids what you have been doing. They couldn't trust that you will be the responsible father figure that your suppose to be. You need to think about what your doing and go tell your wife. Confess. If she finds out that is much harder than you telling her. Talk to her, find out why you want to have a passionate relationship with someone else. Go on a vacation and have someone take the kids. Have a very passionate time with your wife and try new things to satisfy your cravings. Most of all stop thinking about yourself!!!!
2007-04-04 05:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Roxy Carmichael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but the online relationship has to go - its not "real". How can you love someone you have never spent time with or physically been around? While you are passionate in spirit on line, be realistic. Real love means you can withstand all kinds of outside distractions like bills, kids, housework, finances, etc. When someone stands beside you through hell and highwater, then its love. Otherwise, its just an infatuation. Say goodbye, logoff from her forever, and pour this spirit and energy into the relationship you are in right now. It will give back to you ten-fold
2007-04-04 06:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet your on-line lover is a 65 year old man. What a joke. Of course the on-line relationship is great, you share no real responsibilities with each other. It's like the friends you meet on vacation, they are great until you get back to the real world and find out they are drug dealers or something. If you think are doing the right thing, then tell your wife about this. Can't do that? Then you are cheating, plain and simple.
2007-04-04 05:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!! You need to focus on your priorities!!! If you are drawn to the company of another what's missing from what you already have??? There's a lot of damage that can be done and people will be hurt. Think about what's at stake. How's your relationship with the kids could you go from all the time dad to Tuesdays after school and every other weekend??? A lot to consider.Good luck!!
2007-04-04 05:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if the tables were turned? how hurt do you think your family would feel if they knew? if you really love your family you would not put them in that situation. think about what you have right under your nose and then check out how many of these online "romances" have turned out disasterous for so many people. if you're questioning yourself about this you already know the answer. you shouldn't have to ask others to validate your mental infidelity...it's still cheating.
2007-04-04 05:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by ac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not doing the right thing. If you love your family like you say you do, then you wouldn't cheat them!! You need to stop talking to your online whore and beg your wife to forgive you for betraying her!
2007-04-04 05:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by swanser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep it online, you're fine... do not meet up in person...
But you may want to ask yourself why you can be so "intimate & passionate" with someone this way... is it because there's no real responsibility?
2007-04-04 05:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by aspicco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get me wrong but i dont care for cheaters........................
i would NOT have a online lover if i wanted my family o love me the way i want them too
2007-04-04 05:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you doing the right thing its should be just a friendly realtionship nothing else
2007-04-04 05:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋