Me and my fiance are getting married soon and his dughter mother is trying to ruin the relationship between me and him! she makes up thes stories and tries to hug him just to get some attention! what should I do?
2007-04-04 05:14:33 · 21 answers · asked by I love my angels 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first and most important thing you NEED to do is realize that your man and his ex share a child and will have to share some sort of life together for the sake of that baby. This is very difficult for some women because they feel insecure about "sharing" their man. The second, and perhaps, most important thing is that you have to trust your man. There is a reason they are not getting married and you are. Trust him to know the difference between his responsibility to his child and to you.
The last thing you should do right now is let insecurities to ruin your relationship. Talk to him about your feelings, but keep his position in all this as a main focus. Try to find a way the 3 of you can raise this child together without as much drama as possible.
2007-04-04 05:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can have a talk with her but it won't make much difference. The fact is your fiance will have this woman in his life forever. There is nothing you can do about it other than try to keep the interaction to a minimum. She will always be a thorn in your side, get use to it. Sorry to say but because of his daughter, the mother comes with the deal. If you don't like that, don't marry him. It's your choice to make, be sure you can live with it.
2007-04-04 05:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, there's nothing you should have to do. Remain secure in your relationship, and trust him to do the same. The way I see it - I don't have to worry about nobody snatchin' my man, unless he wants to be snatched. And if he wants to be snatched - I ain't cryin'. Drop him, and move on. You deserve his full attention, and if he's wandering - would you really want to marry that type of man? If he's not - then do you really have anything to worry about? If the both of you are solid - no matter what she does, she can't touch you.
Now, that said - has he or is he willing to talk to her about this? Is he setting clear, consistent boundaries with her? Because he should. Don't leave room for her games. Depending on your relationship to her - you could do the same. At any rate, if she does not listen to either of you -and it gets bad enough - threaten her with a restraining order. If she keeps it up - follow thru. If she has any sense at all - she'll heed. But generally, people can only push you, if you let them. Stand your ground, and don't back down.
2007-04-04 05:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your man down and explain to him that you are not comfortable with the situation. If he loves you enough to want to marry you he will do something about it. As for dramababymama, simply spend sometime with baby, as much as you can and allow him/her to develop an attachment with you, then use it against her. Her reaction won't be a positive one and fiancee will see you loving his baby and mama causing drama. Most men don't appreciate that sort of problem.But no matter what the child should not suffer from any of this drama, at least not from your side. If that doesn't work, she keeps dissing, personally I'd buss her a*ss good and proper and if fiance doesn't approve he can just kiss mine. GOOD LUCK!
2007-04-04 05:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of her daughter, this woman will always have a pull on your future husband. If you can swing it, after you marry, move with your husband as far away from them as you can possibly get. Otherwise, she will practically, move next door to you and always be in his face. That is why divorces and live in relationships do not work well for family living. Just make sure you do not become another casualty of this man's indecision about committment. Best wishes.
2007-04-04 05:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is talk to your fiance about relocating as far away as possible and starting a new life with each other without his daughter's mother around. Have him go to court to file for his daughter to visit him on the weekends, holidays, and summer vacations. You seriously don't need to have her hanging around your husband. All you guys need is his daughter. Good Luck.
2007-04-04 05:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of stories? You have to remember that you are marrying the whole family whether you like it or not! The child and the mother will be a part of his life and yours and if you interfere, well you will alienate you fiance'.
2007-04-04 05:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boo!
The BABY MAMMA comes with the package as a wedding gift and remains so long as the CHILD is alive!
If you can't handle her BEFORE marriage, then you sure as hell won't be able to handle her after.
If this is a deal breaker for you, then you should seriously consider if this marriage is right for you!
Your husband will have to maintain some type of contact with the baby momma in regards to raising the child and visitation and such!
2007-04-04 05:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't get caught up in the drama. Let him deal with her. He needs to put her in her place. They have a child together so like it or not they will always be connected. But it is up to him to make sure she respects you and your relationship. No harm is done in her making up stories as long as he knows she is playing games. If you doesn't handle it, then your real problem is with him!!
2007-04-04 06:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Here's a thought... Find a man who doesn't think it's a great thing to be breeding indiscriminately then abandoning the child when he's tired of the sex with the mother.
Live with it, chickie, she is the mother of his child. If she's so bad, why'd he have sex with her? If she's so bad, what does it say about him?
The child is his for LIFE, and you're gonna have to get used to mommy being in the picture.
2007-04-04 05:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋