I want to have an orgasm but it seems as if i'm unable to do so. Everytime I have sex which is not often, im always on the bottom and my partner is always on top. I tried to get on top and ride him but i cant deal with the pain; however, it doesnt hurt when he's on top. We last for an hour everytime and he cums but i dont. So what should i do to have an orgasm?
2007-04-04 04:56:13 · 13 answers · asked by deb 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think, you should do some self exploration & find out what you like & what turns you on. Otherwise you can't direct your partner. It wouldn't hurt to try some alternate positions, ones that don't hurt you.
2007-04-04 14:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try the reverse cowgirl position. It's you on top, only backwards. This position does feel better. You should also try lying on your side and have him lie behind you for entry from the rear. This position is divine because it allows for your partner and your hands to be free to do caress and hold each other or whatever your imagination takes you. You could always try oral sex if you're open to that and he's will to perform it. That's the easiest way to have an orgasm. Last but not least, there is masturbation. Satisfaction guaranteed. No one knows better than you what you like. Hope I helped. Remember to relax and just have fun. If you're focusing on have an orgasm you can't enjoy yourself and actually have one...or two...or four.
2007-04-04 12:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by evadiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a normal woman. With the man on top position a lot of time the woman's genitals don't receive enough stimulation. The spot to target for orgasm is the clitoris, not the vagina. The clitoris is similar to a man's penis. It's filled with thousands of sensory receptors and actually becomes erect and becomes more evident when stimulated. To increase your likelihood of orgasming during actuall intercourse try having your husband or your partner alternate the angle he's coming from when going inside you. The goal is to get his pelvic area to hit you in the ride spot (sorry if this is to graphic). Have him try coming into you more from an upward angle. Another man on top position that will probably do the job (given you have to be pretty flexible for this one): woman lies on her back, man on top, but have the woman's legs bent and raised over man's shoulders... this proves to be an excellent angle. Don't be afraid to try something new.
And if you want to try woman on top again, it hurt me at first too... but take your own pace. I have to tell my hubby to stop and let me be in control. If your partner tips his pelvis up and you do a grinding motion it can be VERY stimulating.
But to be honest with you, for me orgasm with intercourse is more rare, but husband doing oral and manual is my favorite.
Those are just some ideas that I hope will help you, I apologize if it's too graphic.
Something else that helps orgasms.... trusting your partner and being in a committed relationship (like marriage) where you know you can be completely vulnerable and let yourself go- it's absolutely beautiful.
2007-04-04 12:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by mrservasti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been told that there are 2 types of orgasms. Either from your clitoris or your g-spot. Try touching both to see which gets you more aroused. For me, it's the g-spot, so I can try helping you with that. Do you know where the g-spot is? If you feel inside, it's like the pit of a peach covered in flesh. I've found it to be the most accessible during doggy style. Maybe you need to figure out which position works best for you. What gets me off most when the penis is rubbing on it, is to think of the guy about ready to ejaculate. When I think of him getting off, I get off too. Try clenching your muscles in your vagina and hold them tight during intercourse. This can help too.
2007-04-04 12:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sucky thing about sex and woman is that we are sooo emotional. If something is bothering us and we can't concentrate on tasks at hand...including sex, we don't function all that well. For alot of us.not all of us. I happen to be one of those that have trouble getting to orgasm if my mind id trailing off...when this happens and I'm having sex with my husband we do all the regular positions. but when I want to get a n orgasm...i have him do doggie style and while hes' doin that I am masturbating myself to orgasm. It is true that its sometimes hard for woman to get a vaginal orgasm, so when all else fails...rub, rub away!
2007-04-04 12:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by armywife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try other positions if you being on top is too painful. Maybe laying on your sides with him behind would be better for you. He can then reach around and try to bring you to climax by clitorically rubbing you.
2007-04-04 12:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take it slow... maybe bring your hips up to him if you're on the bottom.. (give him a better angle..it'll feel good for you too) try different positions..sometimes its easier to be on top if you are both sitting up (like on a couch or on a seat of some sort)..but first try taking your time and really enjoying it.. sometimes if you go too fast then you don't get the overall feeling wanted....
2007-04-04 12:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.contreras 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two need to engage in more foreplay to get you turned on. Or maybe you could engage in some kind of fantasy or roll play... do you have something that really turns you on, like a fetish or something? Talk to your partner about it and you could work something out.
2007-04-04 12:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by ssmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not feeling good at all then maybe it's his problem. Try rubbing your clit or maybe try some new positions like "doggie style" where you bend over and he stands behind you. Different people like different things.
2007-04-04 12:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by Audrey D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is very common. some women never have one. are you comfortable with him? you have to relax and not try so hard. this is nasty to say but have you ever tried to have one by yourself. of course there are different products out there that can help you, you know go the "sex" store. haha really try to have one doing it yourself once you have one you may find its easier and you may find your trigger.... good luck
2007-04-04 12:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by kt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋