if he a man gets a woman pregnant - shouldn't the woman stop working until the baby is born?

Question

i feel she shouldnt have to pay a cent of her money especially if she isnt financially stable - i think thats the father's responsibility - what do you think about it?

Answer 1

if the two aren't married.. then NO!!
He has no reponsibility to YOU...just the baby.. Don't be a bum!!! Besides, it takes two to conceive a child!! Not just the man!!!!!!

Answer 2

It all depends on the situation. Not everything is black and white with a topic like this. Some couples have the arrangement that the father will work, and the mother stays home and takes care of the house and kids. Therefore, the money is the father's responsibility. But some people who have kids both work, and can't afford not to. I don't think a woman working while pregnant is a bad thing, as long as there are no complications and the job is safe for her and the baby. It is healthier to get the exercise rather than sit around all day if the mom has no other responsibilities. In some cases, the woman who gets pregnant is unfortunately more responsible and more financially stable and independent than the father (yup, that's me). In a case like that, the woman has no choice but to provide for herself and her child, as long as she is able to do so. You can't always rely on someone else to do their part. You should be able to, but it doesn't always happen that way. Besides, even in married couples where both people work before baby is born, the woman enjoys continuing to work simply cuz it fills her time if she has nothing else to do. The bonus is that she can save up the extra money for if she decides to stay home after the baby is born. All in all, everything depends on each couple's personal situation. There's no one right answer for everyone.

Answer 3

I feel that a woman should never depend on a man financially. I guess that is just how I was raised. Also, it isn't just the man's fault that a woman gets pregnant it's both parties to blame. It is the responsibility of the man to help support the child once it is born but there really isn't anything a woman can do to make a man pay before the baby comes. I am 36 weeks pregnant and I am still working. Luckily I have a great husband that takes care of me but I still choose to work.

Answer 4

I think that is so ridiculous! I think a woman should work up until she her 7th or 8th month depending on what the doctor says. The women's responsibility is to work so she is able to save some extra money. That extra money should go toward a tune up, car registration, or any expenses that will need to be taken care of before the baby is born. Ladies, having a baby is not a free ticket out of work. It just means you are bringing your work home with you. When the baby is born the woman should in fact be taken care of by the baby's father. It is a full-time job staying home and should be acknowledge.

Answer 5

Unless you have a previous condition that your doctor says would prevent you from working you can work up until you either dialate or your water breaks. Remember it takes 2. he wasnt the only one involved in making that baby. Although some woman would prefer to stay home during pregnancy, if she is financially unstable than she should be doing all she can to contribute. Also, you say until the baby is born? What about after? You have to remember she/you may need @ least 3 months to recover and bond with her new addition. Money is very important with a new baby coming. Hospital bills (if its a boy circumcision can cost about $500), diapers(between 6 & 10 a day), formula(my stepbrother estimated $500 a month), clothes (my 7 month old is already in 12 month outfits), and so much more!!!!!!!!!! Please dont think me cruel, I just want you to realize the importance of saving as much as possable before the baby comes.


michelle

Answer 6

I'm a mother of 3. I worked when I was pregnant. I went into pre- term labor twice and was forced on bed rest only for me to go behind my doctor's back and find another less stressful job. When I went into pre-term labor there, I knew it was my babies health that was at hand. So I went on bed rest. At that time I was 35 weeks pregnant. Few weeks later I was involved in a car accident and went into labor. I was a back seat passenger. I held my baby for 10 months to make sure she was safe. My husband continued to work and continued to tell me to rest. So I did. I was forced by circumstanced bigger than me to quit. She was born a healthy 8 pounds 3 oz. Having said that...baby girl it takes two to make ends meet. If a woman or man is financially unstable they should use caution when having sex. It also takes two to make a baby. That means shared responsibility. Back then we was financially unstable. We were newly weds with already one child. I knew he needed my help and that all I did would benefit our children and their futures. The problem with a lot of people in this society is their give a d@mn has busted. They should want a better future for their kids. I know I did. And I made a few changes. I went from the newly wed who had nothing to a mother who has a lot. Not just in the material but in the loving physical aspect too. Baby girl, work and save your money cause in the end you gonna need all that you have made and a whole lot more. Good Luck, I hope I have inspired you for greater things.

Answer 7

I think who ever you choose as your best answer will be agreeing with you. This how ever is 2007. I have been pregnant twice and I worked both times. This is my third pregnancy and I am still working. I think that the father has a choice in if he is going to pay 100% of the pregnancy. If this were the 60 I might agree with you. How ever didn't it take two. I'm assuming you and the father knew that this could happen. So anyway have a good day.

Answer 8

Wow, there are a lot of factors that would go into that question.....For instance, do I think that if a woman goes out and sleeps with some random guy one night, he should support her for the duration of a pregnancy just because he is the man that impregnated her, absolutely not. They should take some equal responsibility for the life they created, in an ideal world at any rate.
Many women are perfectly capable of working while pregnant also, and I don't think they should necessarily just quit work and do nothing and expect the man to support them just because they are expecting, even if they are in a committed relationship.
Having said that though, there are certainly pregnancies that incapacitate a woman to where she either cannot do the job she has any longer, or maybe cannot work full time any longer, or possibly cannot work at all due to pregnancy complications. If she is in a relationship with a man, then yes I think he should be responsible enough to continue to work himself and try to support her during her time of temporary incapacitation.
I myself worked what time I could into pregnancy, then when I was told I couldn't anymore, tried to rely on my husband. He did not take the responsibility well, began skipping work himself, blowing money we needed for basic expenses, until we did not have the money to keep a roof over our heads. I ended up leaving him for several reasons, and having to come and stay with my family for the duration of this pregnancy, so you have to keep in mind that you cannot necessarily rely on a man, even one you are married to, to support a woman during a pregnancy.
Some men step up to the plate admirably to take responsibility for the children they helped create, and some do not, it's that simple. Do I think they should be responsible for EVERYTHING while a woman does nothing, no. If a woman is doing or has done all she can to contribute while pregnant, I certainly think the man should do the same. But, that isn't always the case. Thank God there is a lot of help out there for women who find themselves temporarily in need of help to get through a pregnancy alone!

Answer 9

I think it should be an agreement between the two. If the woman is financially unstable, she is using the pregnancy as an excuse to NOT work. I was pregnant and kept my job until the day i went into labor. ( As sunday evening) Keeping a child is a woman 's decision and she foremost needs to make sure she can provide for that chaild on her own, in case the father bails out! Not every man accepts their responsibility of taking care of the child. And their responsibility is the CHILD NOT THE WOMAN! So many women get that confused it makes me sick. Being pregnant is not a handicap, it's a blessing. Many professional successful women keep working til the end of their pregnancy. Unless prescribed by your doctor. Being pregnant is not a reason to become a burden to society, and become dependent on someone else at that. That's just me.

Answer 10

I think that both need to pay for the baby. Suppose the father is not finacially stable? I assume you are talking about a couple that is not married. I think the woman should work up until the point the doctor tells her to stop. If she is not finacially stable then she definately needs to work to help support herself whether she has a baby or not. Yes the father should help pay for the baby but he is not responsible for every cent unless you are talking about a very rich man.

Answer 11

No - unless there is some medical reason that she shouldn't work, and pregnancy is not a medical reason. I worked up until 1 week before I gave birth and had absolutly no problems, so unless you work in an unhealthy environment then why quit? And it is both the mother and fathers responisibility - if you think she isn't financially stable, shouldn't she be working to save money for when the baby is born??? She had just as much to do with this.