ma 5 week old baby is spolied?

Question

ma baby is sooo spoiled she alwayz want some1 to hold she alwayz want me to hold her should i say and i dont have time holding her all the time. i use breastfeed and give her formula but now all she want is breast milk, and im about to go back to work what should i do?

Answer 1

She is not spoiled. You can't spoil a baby. Children this age cry and fuss to COMMUNICATE with you and NOT to manipulate you. At this age, being held is a true NEED for her and it is GOOD for her.

Remember that just a few weeks ago she was inside you. She could hear/smell/taste/touch/see you every second of every day. Now, she can't always sense you. And she doesn't yet understand that the two of you are separate beings. This is VERY scarey! Imagine waking up to find your leg is gone. That's kind of what it's like for her. She also doesn't understand yet that if she can't sense you, you still exhist.

Do you have a baby sling that you can wear her in? This will allow you to get stuff done but also meet her need to be held.

Can you pump for her bottles while you are at work? If you don't have a pump, do you qualify for WIC? WIC can give you a pump! If you need her to take bottles while you are at work, I'd suggest you leave the room and let someone else (dad, grandma, etc.) offer her a bottle. She is SMART and if you are right there of course she is gonna hold out for the real deal, straight from the tap!

Answer 2

A 5 week old baby can't be spoiled and they are too little to know how to manipulate anyone. Babies need to be held ad cuddled and loved. It is necessary for their development. At this age they feel more secure when mommie is holding them because they got use to everything about mommie while they were in the womb. Mommie is the familiar, her smells, her heartbeat, the rhythm of her breathing, her voice, babies get exposed to all of that the most while you are pregnant.
It is a good thing that your baby only wants breast milk. Breastfeeding in the middle of the night is so much easier then getting up and making a bottle. It offers more snuggle time also. Breastfed babies want to eat more often then formula fed babies. If you about to go back to work then you should get a breast pump. If you qualify for WIC they might be able to help you obtain one. If you make too much money for WIC but still can't afford a good quality breast pump (because you don't want the cheapest one you can find at walmart) ask your pediatrician about any resources available for you to get a good breast pump at no cost or low cost.

As far as the holding thing goes, keep holding your baby. They grow up so quick and here in no time at all your baby will be too busy exploring the world around them to have you hold them. Cherish it because it doesn't last for very long. Besides they say the more you hold your newborn, the more secure they are in the long run.

Answer 3

First, your baby isn't spoiled - these are her real needs. She isn't able to control anything about her environment and needs to communicate her needs to you in any way that works.

I'm assuming if she isn't held she cries? Some babies need more comforting than others - remember, babies are people too. Just like adults they all have their own personalities. Some babies are very independent, others need a lot of reassurance. You just got lucky and got a baby who needs a lot of reassurance - hopefully she'll stay cuddly for a long time.

But in the mean time you need to go back to work, which means you need to find a way to give her the reassurance she needs. I would suggest using a sling or other type of front carrier. This will get your hands free, while still letting her be close to you and feeling secure. You could also try a co-sleeping arrangement - either making your bed safe for her or using a side bed, so she is right there with you at night.

As for the breastfeeding, it doesn't surprise me she likes it better. If you've ever tasted formula you know it is gross, but breast milk is sweet. You can try to adjust her feedings so she does most of her eating while you will be home from work, this usually involves keeping night feedings longer than mothers hoped - but it does allow the breastfeeding to be successful.

The worst advice you will get is to let her cry it out. At this age babies are not capable of manipulating or understanding why they are not getting what they need. Rather than making her stronger, it will make her a more anxious baby because she never knows if she her needs will be met. Babies whose cries are responded to within one minute actually cry less - not more - than babies whose cries are ignored.

Dr. Sears has some great books on the subject of helping your baby adjust to life outside the womb. I particularly recommend The Baby Book - it will have lots of possible solutions for the issues you are facing so you can choose the one that is right for you and your daughter.

Good luck, and hang in there.

Answer 4

A baby's love is certainly unconditional and they truly believe that your only purpose in life is to take care of them! I sympathize with you.....my baby is the same way, and my older kids were that way too. Just spend more and more time each day finding things to occupy her and keep her entertained without holding her...she may get fussy but she has to learn somehow. Also, keep letting others hold her even when she does get fussy. She needs to learn that other people can help soothe her too. With the feeding issue....have you tried pumping breastmilk for her?

In the longrun, just remember...they grow up sooooo fast and this time is sacred and special.....believe it or not, there will come a day when she is too big to carry around and she may not even want to be held. Cherish the little bit of time you have!
I have a 3 month old that is the same way. Fortunately, I do not have to go to work, so I am with her all day, but she is very picky and prefers me most of the time. My oldest daughter will be 13 in July and I would give anything to have her be little again mand be able to just hold her.....Personally, I don't think you can spoil a baby....there is no such thing as too much love!
Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 5

It is impossible for a 5 week old baby to be spoiled. At that age, they are still in a survival mode and they need the affection to survive. She wants the breast milk for the bonding with you. If you need a break find someone else to hold her for a while. It's a good idea to get her used to someone else holding her now so the transition won't be so hard when you go back to work.

Answer 6

Actually, you're supposed to breastfeed until the child is about 6 months old, most doctors recommend one year. If you want to continue to breastfeed, get a breast pump. There are a lot of mothers who still give their children breast milk after returning to work. Some children have trouble going to formula after breast milk. It can upset their stomaches. Make sure you're weaning her very gradually, and try differernt formulas (gradually switching each time you try something new). Please don't be so hard on your child. When I had my daughter I worked AND was in grad school. I was married, but my husband was emotionally unwell (severe PTSD) and could not care for a child, he could barely function himself. It's natural for babies to want to be held. It gives them security. Children who feel this security grow up to be more confident and emotinally "balanced". Child rearing isn't supposed to be convenient. Sounds like you may be the "spoiled" one. Suck it up, hold your child, or face the consequences later.

Answer 7

Your baby is not spoiled all babies are like that. I have 3 kids, my youngest is 19mo, she still clings to me, always wants me and only me to hold her. She won't go to anyone else, she will scream her lungs out, but once I leave the room, she has forgotten about me. Its hard at first, but you and the baby get used to changes.

What you can do is start getting her use to a bottle. Get a breast pump, and store your breast milk in the fridge or freezer. So when you are working she is still getting breast milk, but in a bottle. When you come home you can still breast feed her or use a bottle.

Answer 8

I agree with the previously expressed sentiments. It is possible that she has some colic, and is crying because of that. We don't know why most babies get colic. It's NOT because your milk is bad.

I hope you are able to pump and save breast milk for the sitter to give while you are at work. Can you pump and store milk while at work? Unfortunately this option is available mostly to moms with white collar jobs. The baby will adjust to the bottle. It might be difficult for the first day or so, but hunger overcomes obstinancy. If you can maintain at least partial breastfeeding, this would be great. Good luck and have courage.

Finally, please be patient and loving. Don't shake the baby out of frustration. This can cause permanent brain damage.

Answer 9

Its true you cant spoil a baby that young. My daughter used to cry all the time she had colic. So enjoy it that a little love and affection can pacify your baby. You are soooo lucky! By the way the doctor said they dont start training you until they are about 5 or 6 months old, then they may become a tiny bit spoiled.....

Answer 10

You're baby is not spoiled. I know it seems like all you do is hold and feed the baby but that's the joy of mother hood. If u have to go back to work soon then you should'nt put your child down untill the day u start working. They grow so fast, enjoy your lil one.