My ex says she still loves me the way used to even though she left me...now she has a new bf....she says the same....She always turn to me...for help but i'm always being mean to her because of the problems she asks me hurts me..relationship problems with him..I ask her if she loves him...she doesn't even know. I ask her why she left....she say that it's hard to explain...she wants to come back at the same time she doesn't.
She seem so messed up......and i'm confused by her confusion. recently i got fed up and decided to break contact until she settles down. I message her and gave her some advices to her problems (work out with her bf and have faith in herself to be independent, talk to mom about problems).. and about love...time... she'll know whom she really loves ...i'm her ex for a reason and i have to move on. I love her alot and what she is doing make me go insane...i need room.
Bless you all whomever reads this .....some people can be jerks a ..hope you all find the one
2007-04-04 02:31:39 · 21 answers · asked by Two options 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well just give her time to make up her mind
i kinda understand her situation, just help her out if u want her back and soon she'll be sure about her feelings =)
and if u dont want her back just tell her that it bothers u and she'll lay back ..
god luck =)
2007-04-04 02:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by MAK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man...relationships are crazy and hard work. how long were u and this girl 2gether for? sounds a bit crazy. but like you said u broke up for a reason and you seem to be mature enough to see what is right and wrong. Dont go back to her! She'll only see that as an opportunity - if she finds someone else again, she'll leave u, and wen she realises she doesnt like that guy anymore, she'll wanna run back to u. And thats not fair on you. So the best thing i can say, is step back, don't get involved but dont be rude (act like the better person) And just dont go back to her!
2007-04-04 09:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by !simply annoyed! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know girls are confusing it sounds to be as she is using her new boyfriend as a rebound from breaking it off with you! I DONT think she is over you yet, You are also doing the right thing but cutting off your contact with her, She needs some time to think of what it is she wants. Sounds like she is losing a guy that loves her but you cant control her heart and her feelings, You will find someone when the time is right! I wouldnt let her confuse you anymore I think she is the one who is confused. If you love something let it free if it comes back its yours if not it wasnt meant to be. I might be a chic but to carry you into her new relationship is just wrong!
2007-04-04 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by cbella06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's good to know that you yourself had decided to keep distance. yes, as much as i hate to say this because you wouldn't want me to say it loud(what can i do subtlety is not one of my talents hehehe) she's just using you, man. she wants to make herself feel still wanted and desirable(because maybe she doesn't get enough attention with her present beau) and she knows she can get that from you. what's worse, she could get away with it because you're still into her. she's leading you on. i don't know what's it about exes and presents. some people just feel guilty(especially when they're the ones who left you) after the break up that the next time you see each other, that person would try to make you feel better by giving you want you wanted from the moment you two parted ways: attention and temporary happiness", which of course would only make you feel worse in the end. she's trapped, if i may say so. she wants her old relationship back(and by that i do not mean YOU IN it) but with her beau now. i hope this helps you. hope you can find the real thing.
2007-04-04 09:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by AJ BA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by breaking contact. Both of you need to figure out who you are without each other. If it was meant to be, it will be.
She isn't using common sense when she is talking to you about her relationship problems with her current bf. Tell her that's what she has girl friends for.
Good Luck!
2007-04-04 09:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with a boy.. Stop thinking about her, she's confused now.. If she loves you, she'll come back. Let pass some time. Probably she loves both and she doesn't know who to stay with..
2007-04-04 09:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need some time. When she made the decision to break up, she took her time and now its your turn.. take some time to heal and to move on. tell her you can understand (if you can) that she didnt want to lose you as a friend, however she risked your friendship when she decided to move on. It isnt fair to be in your face and im sure you deal with it, even though it hurts because you want to be there for her. its nice and all but you should figure out what YOU wnat. do you really want to be apart of someones life when they want you when its convientent for them and they need something? shes putting you on the backburner.. set your own standards and stick to them
2007-04-04 09:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by sbarre10 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say your ex is using you mate she likes the attention you are giving her so it is good you have told her where to go. You sound like a nice bloke and deserve a better girl than someone who messes your head around. Go out there and find a nice girl. Forget about her.. i know its easier said than done but good luck!!!
2007-04-04 09:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by charlie88 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing is the best think you can do for yourself, break all contact with her. It sounds like she is confused and wants to keep you dangling until she figures out whats going on in her life (you are her back-up plan). Don't fall for that, you deserve better that that.
Good luck
2007-04-04 09:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on.. if she loved you still she would probably be with you and not leaving and being unsure about another guy.. she is probably falling for this other guy and you moving on may make her want you back..(you always want what you cant have) but don't just date another girl just to make her jealous or get her back...things always work out for the best..
2007-04-04 12:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by mrs.contreras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋