Basically, my last boyfreind was a complete loser, cheating, lying and he manipulated me. He made me fal in love with him and then he pulled away and started being nasty. So i can understand me being needy to him cos i kept trying to make things right and had to constantly work at getting his attention. I then left him.
Now im with an absolute star of a boyfriend who treats me well. At first i was confident and i thought- if he left me, he left me, but 9 months later, ive fallen for him and he wants to be with me, i feel like im feeling needy again! Its peeing me off cos i hate feeling like this. Im confident, im determined in my work life, and i want to change. I odnt stop him doing stuff or anything, its just a feeling i have. Its like i want his attention a lot, and i want him to think of me all the time (which is pathetic i know) Ive spoken about it to him. And ive stopped texting him etc..Anyone else feel like this? what did u do?
2007-04-03 22:54:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i might add that, my current boyfreind has been through what ive been through in past relaishonships so he is very affectionate and a little needy too, but he doesnt seem to need my attention all the time like i do. Thing is, i feel totally in love like a love struck puppy, like i did the first few weeks of meeting. Im so happy! I just feel like telling him i love him all the time! whats wrong with me! I think feeling like this makes me feel vulnerable and thats what i dont like.
2007-04-04 00:19:25 · update #1
He is the one with the problem babe, not you. You need to talk and be VERY VERY frank with him. This "imbalance" will fester for years if you get together, and you will end up despising him, and life is too short for that. people will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Just draw your line in the sand…… Talk and thrash it out once and for all. If you truly can't resolve it.......well......plenty more fish......
2007-04-04 00:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know the way you experience..Been there. bypass to treatment and tackle the matters you have. the quicker you hit upon out WHY you experience such as you do, the greater ideal. awareness is capability...and in case you recognize your self greater ideal, you would be greater ideal geared up to deal which contain your needy and undesirable thoughts. it truly is sturdy which you are going to see which you're appearing in a manner you will injury your courting...no one loves to have a clingy and needy companion all of the time. bypass to counseling. sturdy luck.
2016-11-26 01:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this has happened to me, my ex did exactly the same.
U just have to strong willed about it, after all its ur sanity were talking about here, and remember if u like him, make sure he doesn't see u like this cos it could scare him away...
Dont stop txting him, just be cool about things...x
2007-04-03 23:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be you were just scared to feel what you've felt before that you're trying to convince that it was just ok for you if he will leave you..... you were punishing yourself on it..... move on and enjoy life....... be hurt until you will learn from it.... life is full of sacrifices and all we have to do is learn from it..... its good to be hurt, because there is always a lesson on it....... don't let your past control your future...... use it as a lesson that need changes.....
2007-04-03 23:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by JOY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOway
2007-04-03 23:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing this to yourself. You have to ask why, do feel you should punish yourself for something?
2007-04-03 22:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a hot dog, you will feel so much better
2007-04-03 23:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋