2 yrs ago, I made friends with a 43 yr. old who makes no attempt to better her life. She moved in w/ her verbally abusive mom 4 yrs ago to save $. All she does is complain of mom & drink more... up to 15 beers/night & she's only 5' tall! I collected apps for 8 hrs @ a job fair after she got laid off. She didn't fill out one. I've helped her many times w/ e-mailing resumes. Now unemployment is running out, she bugs me daily. Her 22 yr old nephew moved in 3 mos ago w/ a PC. She cries he won't show her how to attach her resume to an e-mail, that he said, "You should know that." I told her she wouldn't know e-mailing unless someone showed her, but since she's using his PC right there, she needs to ask him again. She refuses to ask him again. Now she's calling me abusive, falsely accusing me of what he said (if he even said it). She's begun counting favors she's done for me & throwing in my face, forgetting what I've done. I really can't stand her anymore. Would you end it & how??
2007-04-03 21:10:11 · 6 answers · asked by amazonblondeum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
lol, youve done your good deed its time to wipe yours hands and say to yourself you tried... you cant help someone who doesnt want to be helped..
I would sa y look here, ive went out and got job applications for you which you havent even attemted to fill out!! And you have the nerve to began counting favors after all Ive done for you, well you know what I tried youre on your own now adios..
I guarantee she'll call to apologize.
Good Luck
2007-04-03 21:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a fungus. She uses other people, she plays on people's feelings, and she blames other people for her problems. Don't let her problems consume your life. Other people will realize that it is her, not you that is causing the situation that she is in.
If you want to continue to help her, show her how to attach e-mails on your computer. As for my opinion, I would sever the relationship. "You can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink it." (Old saying, but very true) She is going to feed on you any way she can. Just tell her that you are tired of hearing nothing but complaints, and whining from her. Tell her that it is stressing you out. Ask her to give you a call when she gets her life in order. (Don't worry, it won't happen!!)
I left an ex-husband like that. Everyone else was to blame for his problems. Many years after I left him, he was still telling his therapist that I was the cause of all of his problems. The therapists called me, and ask me to attend a session with him. When I told the therapists how many years we were divorced, he said never mind, I think he has more problems than I thought!!
2007-04-03 21:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she needs you, stand by her and help her through this. She is hurting and alone. By being like this she is just protecting herself from more hurt. If you havent got the energy to do this then I suggest you move on and let her know you are going to end the friendship and why you are.
2007-04-03 21:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to her anymore. If she calls you, just tell her there's nothing more to say until she starts going to AA meetings.
2007-04-03 21:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have been very patient. I would say yes.
2007-04-03 21:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, she is history.. Get rid of her and you move on!!
2007-04-03 21:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by AdultMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋