My husband and I quarrelled over small matter. After then, he did not look me up for 2 months already (I'm staying at my mum's place now). I did called him up one month ago, asking him what he actually want. He did not say much and hang up the phone. I start paste thinking guessing during these 2 months did he ever betreat me. What he want now? A divorce? or want me to call him again? I dont know what should I do now. I keep thinking our problem day and night. I couldn't fall asleep. I intend to file a divorce but i scare will hurt my son. How? What can I do now?
2007-04-03 20:02:31 · 11 answers · asked by hbg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well first off id say ask him if he wants the divorce since it sounds as he doesnt want nothing to do with you anyways, but once faced with that D word he might shift his attitude. if not then just tell him your done playin his dumb games and call it good and say hit the road toad
2007-04-03 20:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Pat the fireman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want to work things out.
Call him one more time. Tell him that you are getting ready to file for divorce. Ask him if he is sure this is what he wants. If he says yes or doesn't give you an answer, proceed to the attorney's office. Those divorce papers in his hand will make him make a decision very quickly. Make sure that you get marriage counseling if he decides to come back. Two months apart can cause plenty of accusations and arguments if you go back together. You will need some help to get through the rough parts.
2007-04-03 20:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can call him up again and try to talk peacefully. you seriously need to settle this matter asap.
your son is already hurt.
and dragging this issue on will only hurt him more.
i'm not you, i've not went through what you've gone through, so i dont think i'm in the position to tell you that divorce will solve this problem.
since you said you and your husband quarrels over small matter, perhaps communication is the problem. you know, the way you speak, your tone, your choice of words. just a gentler tone and better choice of words may allow you to put your idea across AND avoid a quarrel.
so my suggestion to you now, do not think about divorce yet. think of what you want. do you want him back, or you want out? call him and talk about your plans peacefully and then hear him out. if he's not ready to talk yet(some guys can take ages to cool down), then you can just wait.
2007-04-03 20:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kiddish. You cant break a marriage because of a petty quarrel. I dont know wat your husband wants. Either he wants to harass you for some time because you left him or he wants you to beg and come back on your own accord. probably he is angry. there are also chances that he doesnt want to live with you anymore. if thats so wait and see if he files a divorce or not. Dont take any decesion before understanding and knowing the reality of the situation.try and find out.
2007-04-03 20:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what he wants and start figuring out what you want. It sounds like he's not interested in fixing the problems that exist between the two of you, so don't waste your time waiting for him or running after him. Get a divorce and build a life for yourself and your child.
2007-04-03 20:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should go to your husband n confront him bout the whole problem. speak like an adult there shudnt be any avoidance, its not gona help.it'll make things worse. n dont think bout divorce yet, your son is innocent n he the needs both of u. speak to yr husband, n get atleast a conclusion, to wait or get done with it, both of u decide.
2007-04-03 20:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is already hurt. Help him to heal sooner by divorcing this guy and moving on.
2007-04-03 20:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dan The Answer Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult situation for you as he is not saying too much. For your son's sake, you may want to talk to him about marital counselling which help many couples. So it is worth giving a try.
2007-04-04 11:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by james t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.
Your husband has been busy watchin' football on the tv,
...I'm sure he'll call you after the football season is over.
.
2007-04-03 20:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't file...what did you do....cheat.....what did he do...this doesnt seem like a reason to get a divorce...but just wait it out...he maybe just need time...
2007-04-03 20:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by jazzy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋