My ex husbands new girlfriend tattooed my children's name on her leg....am I wrong to be upset by this?

Question

They've been dating a few months...he left us for her.

I put their names on my back after each labor to celebrate their birth.....its always been special and private to me......

BUT SHE PUT THEIR NAMES ON HER! I've always been an advocate of being rational/calm....but really, I'm so distressed by this! Only human. Am I wrong to feel this way? Or do I need to calm down?

I'm having trouble sleeping over it. THEY ARE MY KIDS!! She may love them, but I feel she's crossed the line. Am I being oversensitive?

Am I over-analyzing my emotions........am I wrong or over- reacting? Because this hurts and angers me equally. Please help....I feel like a sad whack job over this bs.

Answer 1

Honey, you aren't the sad whack job in this situation. This new girlfriend of your ex, however, is the extremely sad whack job. Why would you tattoo someone else's childrens names on your body when you've only been with their father, who left them to make it worse, for only a few months?

What kind of a dumba** do you really have to be to do that?

If I were you, I'd be so pissed off I'd probably resort to violence. I'm not trying to say this is what you should do, because by no means should you ... but, boy ... I'd let your feelings on that subject be heard by both this girl and your ex!

Answer 2

I don't think you are over reacting. She stole your husband . Putting your kids name on her is like rubbing salt in your wounds. They are not her kids. She did not give birth to them. Her investment in them has been zippo compared to yours. The fact that she would put their names on herself after just a couple of months is bizarre to say the least. What is she going to do if things don't work out for her with your ex?

Advice: Don't let her know it bugs you...I think that maybe what she wants is power over you. Don't give her any. I think you are still in the grieving process over the events that have taken place with your ex. and that is why it feels so angry and hurtful.
I know as a kid, I would have thought this was weird if another woman other than my mom had tatooed my name on her leg. She may be setting herself up for failure.....too bad...it couldn't happen to a nicer loser.
You hang in there and stay strong.Your children love you :-)

Answer 3

Oh lord!! I would FUH-REAK if that happened to me! Before I married my husband, we had a child together but had broken up for a while. There was some other chick who liked him and made some comment about how she would love to be my daughter's mother. I had a hard time even handling that! So I don't even think you're close to overreacting by being upset over tats.

Oh man, I'd love b-slap her for you!! But I'm a responsible adult now, so I can't...lol. So, I'll just think about it for ya :).

Don't feel too bad. You're only human and it's totally understandable.

Answer 4

Man, if that isn't being a brazin ***** I don't know what is. I'd be razin some comotion over that one. Matter of fact, I think you have a law suit on your hands if you want it. Damn that's bold. I would probably done more than just get upset. She might have had more to worry about than a law suit if it were me. God knows, your heart must be breaking. I am so sad for you. I will definitely be praying for her to get whatever she deserves. I never heard of anything like that. :!

Answer 5

They will always be your children. But when your ex dumps the girlfriend (and he will) she is going to have to come up with a lot of money to get those names removed. Or else, she is going the be walking around with a painful reminder of the man she lost and the children she never had. Give it time, honey. I would bet the tattoos are already her desperate attempt to integrate herself into his life. The last laugh will be yours.

Answer 6

You have all the right in the world to be mad. She sounds like a downright lunatic. Rest assured people who do things as foolish as she has just dont stay together. I really dont give their relationship that long, truthfully. And then she will be stuck with YOUR kids names on her legs. I also know she did this to anger you.

Answer 7

If they've only been dating for a short time, just smile on the inside when you think about your Ex screwing her over like he did you (because he will) & she'll be stuck with a forever rememberance of how he screwed her over and how dumb she was to get those tatoos. But yes, I guess for the time being, I'D BE ONE TICKED OFF CHICK!!!

Answer 8

That is so very wrong, but you will be better off to try to dismiss this from your life. Just be glad she didn't put her name on their legs. That would be grounds for child endangerment.

In the meantime, if you can afford counseling, I would highly recommend it. The divorce lawyer in my case ordered my X to pay for six months, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Answer 9

You are so totally right to be pissed. She has no right to do this, although, there is no law against it. It is really stupid on her part. If (and I am sure it won't last) and when they break up, she has a permanent reminder. She sounds insecure and needy, trying to please your ex. Remember, once a cheater, always a cheater. He'll cheat on her.. you can bet on it. But stressing out over what's done is not good. Rise above it, move on... Good Luck

Answer 10

I sure hope that she can get those tattoos removed when he dumps her for the next woman. She's a few sandwiches short of a picnic.

Focus your attention on those kids who have lost a father. You are their sense of security that it will be OK. Have pity for that misguided woman. Your ex sounds like a piece of work.