FriendShip Advice...?

Question

Hi, my best friend of 19 yrs, someone ive known since i was born, (which makes me 19) has hurt me horribly, we are studying the same course at uni, and i spent 40 hrs on an assignment we had, she comes and stays over, and she is allowed to use my laptop and the net, i went and had a shower, trusting her, and just was was walking back in my room and laid down on my bed next to her, i thought i saw my assignment name on her email as she was sending it to herself of my laptop, i didnt want to ask her, but instead, i rang my mum, and told her, and she told me to tell the teacher, to the next day at uni, i went and told him, and he said he would look out for it when we hand them in, but couldnt do much because for all he knew, i might have been the one stealing it, and saying it was mine.. Anyway i got my results back this week, with a dirty letter telling me that in has indeed been copied, and that someone used someone elses work, and had huge chucks high lighted to show me whats been used

Now I thought i would ring her and ask her myself, and i gave her the chance to confess if she had taken it, and that i wouldnt be angry, although i was very upset, but she has kept saying she hasnt, but the fact that 2 teachers have picked it out, thats its been used. and the my hunch that she has taken it, like i thought she did.. My question is this.. How do i handle this situation, should i stop being friends with her, or should i just keep bei friends but without the trust, because now i cant trust her, and she has broken my heart, this is someone i know better then myself, and i thought i could trust her. but it shows i cant, and now i have no idea what to do about it all.. please help me..

Answer 1

you yourself should try to get along with her,but don't ever bring this accident up again. Another thing you should know never trust your friends they will be the first to stab you in the back,and that's sad,but it is very true!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck don't step down to her level be a good friend. I know it will be hard!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I'm sorry about this. It must be horrible for you. Well, one of the qualities of a best friend is trustworthy. If she can't be that, maybe you shouldn't be best friends. Unless she apologizes, tels why she did it, confesses to the teachers, and proves to you that she can be trusted. If she doesn't do that, well then, I know it's hard but, I don't think you should trust her, let alone be her friend. I know this is hard to do, because I'd feel the same way with my best friend of 11 yrs. Well you just have to do what you think is best. Hope this helps. You'll have to take it from here =(

Answer 3

First of all, I would have confronted her immediately. Secondly I would have asked her how she could betray me after all of these years. Thirdly, she is no friend of yours, if she is stealing your hard work.

Tell her that if this is how she treats her friends you are not interested in being her friend anymore. Also warn all the group you hang around with about what she did to you, before you confront her. She may try to do it to them also. (Possibly has already done it to them in the past)

I sure hope that this did not affect your grade. Hopefully the teacher will recognize your work. If there is a problem, however, ask the teacher if you can do another report to prove that you are willing to earn your grades.

Answer 4

did you get in trouble at your school? i wouldn't be friends with someone like that. regardless of how long you been friends. she betrayed your trust. you can't be friends with someone without trust, if you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship..whether it be a friendship or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship...no trust, no nothing. she was wrong to do that. don't let anyone use your computer anymore. it's a lesson learned you can't change it...do you have her password? log on to hers and find the email

Answer 5

hmmm i wonder why she didnt think you would find out, obviously it would be suspicious when you both turned in the same work....talk to her, friends for 19 years friends for nine days doesnt matter, cant trust anyone.dont let her near your man..