Women how did you say goodbye to a man who loved you but wouldnt marry you.?

Question

Hes a great guy and I love him but after 6years I wanted marriage.He got some big fear or hangup and he has really strung me along and made me beleive we would and then there was always an excuse.Im mad ,ready to walk,We dont live together anyhow Im planning to move 20 miles away to another town and as much as it hurts I think we should date others and stay freinds .Its so sad but Im not happy I want someone there at night.Im in my 30s and he just cant commit.How did you walk away if you had a similar exspereince.I cant be the only one.Its like there just bs with him no future.sad because he has good qualities that made me love him.

for people who say marraige is just a peice paper ,you dont have the nagging feeling that basically he is telling you your not good enough.Because that is what he is saying.Im already ashamed for straying from my raising for so long.If he loved me seriously he would of proposed.

Answer 1

Sadly there are quite a few men around with this problem. Some aren't worth the time of day, they just drag you along for the game of it. But some are really nice guys, who truly love you, and in their heart they really believe that they will marry you...one day! But they never actually get around to it for one reason or another. I had one of these in my life for 8 years, and he was such a sweetie.

But within a year of our parting, I found and married my life partner and we've had 3 gorgeous boys.

I live in a country town, so I bump into my ex occasionally, and we always have a friendly catch up. But, 10 years after we parted, he is still unmarried and still procrastinating with everything in his life. Now his excuse is that he will never find anyone as good as me, lol. It's such a waist. I wish he could find some one nice and make a commitment.

Unfortunately, I don't know you or your situation well enough to be able to judge it or it's outcomes. But hopefully my experience will have helped you in some way. But I will say one thing: Don't waist too much time on this guy unless he can give you a commitment, we are only young once. Life is precious, live it to it's fullest.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Maybe he really is not ready, don't push him. Give him time. Let him make sure that he has made the right choice... if you two get married in a hurry and then realize that you two just aren't made for each other then there is no turning back. Talk to him. Give him his spcae if he needs it. Take a break and suggest to date other people, but DO NOT move away. Would it hurt you to give the guy some time? Good luck with your situation, but i strongly think that moving away will not make things better.

Answer 3

Walk away from this guy and the relationship. If he really does love you and cant live without you, he will come after you and be willing to do whatever it takes to keep you in his life (that includes marriage). If you leave and he lets you go without a fight, he is not worthy of your love and he is not the right guy to marry anyway. If you stay because you love him, he will never marry you because by staying with him you accept the fact that he is not willing to get married. And you have already said that you are not happy with that. Leaving him may be hard, but stay strong. Do not be willing to sacrifice your life's happiness.

Answer 4

9 out of 10 guys will not marry you if they hadn't by the end of the second year being together.Why do women take up for the
men who has done her wrong.He isn't so wonderful as you put it or else he would of married you,after 6 years I would say that was long enough to wait.You are doing the right thing by leaving and if he loves you he will come after you when he realizes you are gone and you are not coming back.Sometime we need to let them go so he can find his way back to you, that is when you'll no if he loves you or not.

Answer 5

if you truly want to get married, then you should never settle for less.

My suspicion is that he probably told you he wanted to marry you and that's why you two moved in together - oldest trick in the book!
After you moved in together, he obviosuly had no desire to get married and was in no rush to set a wedding date - why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free?!!

It's unfortunate that you allowed yourself to be led on in a dead-end relationship for 6 years!!! years wasted is a lfe wasted. On the up-side, you have now come to your senses and want out.

In your next relationship, avoid living together for as long as possible - if he is really serious about you, he will not be able to wait to marry you. If he is not serious, you wouldn't have wasted your time in a dead-end relationship.

Preferably, I'd say "I am a bit old-fashioned and would prefer to wait till we get married before living together" Believe me, he would respect you more it!

Now with regards to your current boyfriend, simply say: " we have been together for a while now and i do not feel this relationship has a future. I do not believe you are serious about me enough to make a commitment to me and as a result, i want out of this relationship to find my own happiness". If he really wnats to marry you, he will return to you......and when he does, be sure you ask him if he wants to marry and pin him donw for a date...also do not move in with him again till after the wedding day.

Answer 6

If you really love him, Marriage to me ,is just A piece of paper. I have been with my man, now for 10 years. We think? [ why ruin A great thing by getting Married]? If you love him, just accept that he is not leading you on, that he does love you very much, but is afraid to ruin A good thing by saying I-DO.Ask him, if that is what he might be thinking???? Good Luck.

Answer 7

Just tell him that you want marriage and a family in your
life and you are getting too old to play around with a man
who does not want the same out of life...
It has been fun but you have to go....

Answer 8

I comprehend which you're asking with reference to the various recommendations-set of Egyptian adult males whilst married to a distant places woman than whilst married to an Egyptian and not approximately WHY they marry distant places women, so this is my answer: I certainly have observed an identical element too and that i'm no longer speaking approximately expressing their affection in public, i'm speaking a pair of diverse recommendations-set even at living house. whilst Egyptian adult males are married to a distant places woman they often, willingly and luckily, help at living house, wash dishes, are expertise, being concerned and loving, help with the toddlers and so on and so on and that i've got considered it on various events , whether the couple stay interior or outdoors Egypt. yet there is form of a diverse development to their recommendations-set whilst they are married to an Egyptian woman. the guy expects to have a sparkling living house, a superb cooked meal on time, a perfect mom and a appropriate spouse in return for offering the month-to-month earnings whether the spouse works too (that's the spouse's chores as they say). Egyptian adult males subsequently would furnish help, yet just to their convenience and not through fact they sense that is portion of their household initiatives. i'm able to easily furnish theories as to why this could be. perhaps distant places women are no longer as submissive as Egyptians through cultural motives, whilst the Egyptian women have been raised in a life-style that replaced into waiting for women to artwork yet no longer waiting for adult males to share living house responsibilities, so as that they certainly do no longer merchandise whilst they see this recommendations-set and in the event that they do, adult males do no longer take it heavily through fact they comprehend their backgrounds purely too properly. the 2d theory is by way of the fact adult males who evaluate marrying a distant places woman purely are diverse in character. they could be somewhat greater open minded and that they do anticipate cultural modifications and comprehend that they'd desire to objective to close the cultural gaps and diverse factors of view with their better halves!

Answer 9

I would say goodbye with the middle finger. What a looser to waste 6 years of your life.

Answer 10

It never happened to me but I think you should just forget the man and move on. No use pondering over the matter.