let go of a grudge, are you the type of person that harbors it making it fuel your revenge, or are you the type of person that can forgive and forget?
*I'm trying to learn to forgive and forget, but somedays it's just to hard to be the better person*
2007-04-03 17:31:30 · 21 answers · asked by Lazrus 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I know how you feel lazrus281...somedays it really is hard to be the better person...i dont plan or wish to take revenges...i just keep a lot of anger bottled inside me....im trying to be more forgiving...but i will never forget bcuz..i need to remember the experience so that i can learn and grow from it...or at least thats how i try to look at it.
2007-04-04 01:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jaded 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am usually the first one to forgive and forget. However, if you're really messing with me, then is when I have my fun. And make sure the person knows it is me! A few years ago, some so called friends started pulling some major crap thinking we wouldn't know it was them. I simply made a phone call to INFORM the cable company they were illegally stealing their service. It was the only time I have ever done that, and hopefully the last also. The people were promptly disconnected and their illegal cable box was confiscated. I was so happy to let them know that I was the one who nailed them. They never bothered us again. I don't get even, I GET AHEAD!!!
2007-04-04 00:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It used to hard to forgive and forget when I was younger but I have mellowed out through the years and now know that all of that is not so important anymore. There is just not any reason to let it cause me to be upset and cause me to have such tied up knots inside and worry and madness, etc. inside. I've learned to let it all go and to get on with my life because I now know it is better for me and it JUST ISN'T WORTH IT!
2007-04-04 00:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how serious I have been wronged.
If it's a minor misdemeanor, I'd probably forgive & forget in a heartbeat.
But if someone almost or totally destroys everything I loved & worked for, I would be out for their blood or their head on a stick, whatever comes first.
No chance for forgiveness in the latter case...
... ever!!!
2007-04-04 00:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Devilish Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. A friend of mine sold out a bunch of our mutual friends - that was two years ago and he's only just gotten off the kill list. Betrayal is just one of those things I don't take to. But if you've personally hurt me in some way, well, I get over that stuff quickly. Holding little grudges just slow you down.
2007-04-04 00:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kaiialyne S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The old adage "forgive and forget" is utter bulldung!
I will possibly forgive the person after a cool-off period of at least 24 hours, but, babe, I'll never forget!
My whole heart is like a black book full of names who've offended or hurt me!
2007-04-04 00:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by xxon_23 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I forgive and forget so easy. It's like ridiculous. But when it gets really bad with someone then I just stop being friends with them, and then later I forget why I stopped being friends. lol
Life is so much easier if you make it simpler.
2007-04-04 00:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Snow White 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't keep grudges so much even though there's now 5 people in the world that I really hate. (it was upped by one person about 6 months ago). I don't do much with that, it's just my mental list to avoid them if I can.
2007-04-04 00:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by purplebuggy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't hold a grudge - but I do tend to hold on to the hurt... So I guess I don't forgive & forget either... Hmmm....
2007-04-04 00:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by angelover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the grudge is about and how long you've been friends.
Let the small stuff slide, I say. I've found that the longer you've been friends the harder this is.
2007-04-04 01:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by p37ry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋