i have a 22 month old son and a 10 week old daughter. they both went to bed at 9. well, im waiting for company from out of town to get here so i can go to bed. they know i have a newborn. by the time my company gets here and i go to lay down, my baby will wake up. my company would have been here but they stopped off in another state to visit other friends. he said he would be here at 9:30 its now 10:30. im tired. am i wrong to be mad? its my husbands friend and my husband is working so i have to wait up. why dont people think about the inconvenience
2007-04-03 15:40:14 · 21 answers · asked by learnin_toluvme 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Well, if your company doesn't have any kids they probably have no idea of the kind of mental anguish you are going through right now. Sorry things aren't working out for you; I would come watch the kids if I could!
But I think you should try to get some rest right now and don't worry about your company; if you are snoozing and they can't get in, just keep the phone by you so they can call and wake you up. They obviously have no problem with inconveniencing you!
2007-04-03 15:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by ssmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People rarely think beyond the ends of their own noses. It'd be great if they did, but they often don't. That's what the rules of etiquette are for - to give us "rules" for behavior so we don't have to improvise so much. It's not wrong to expect courtesy from a guest. Courtesy would be to be on time, or to call and explain that you will be late (and what time to expect you).
It's okay to ask politely for this. It's also okay to go to bed when they're an hour late and don't call. When they arrive, you answer the door in your robe and slippers, yawning. "When it was clear that you were held up, I had to go to bed - I knew you'd understand."
It's also okay to nap on the couch until the doorbell rings. Even had they arrived on time, they did plan to arrive late. It's even okay to explain that you have a new baby and can't keep late hours - perhaps they'd rather just spend the night somewhere along the way and arrive the next day?
So long as you ask and explain politely, all of this is okay. What's not okay is letting others decide for you what you will do without asking you what you want, or considering what you want or need. Since they didn't think of that, it's okay to decide for yourself what works for you and do that. Politely. Where else are they going to learn manners? Not from each other.
2007-04-03 15:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm right there with you. I have a 5 month old and I use to get bombarded all the time. However I feel that mine and my child's sleep is more important so I turn off the cell phone and take the house phone off the hook whenever we nap or go to bed. People didn't like it at first but they got the hint. Sooo put a note on the front door that says NEW MOMMY & BABY " DO NOT DISTURB"! LOL maybe your hubby's friends will go away
2007-04-03 15:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by radical_92 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for feeling mad...they should be a bit more considerate of what time they call on you ! But if you don't want this to happen again, then you have to tell them and others that might call in at times that are not suitable for you and the family ! It sounds like your babies don't sleep very well...I am sorry to hear that ! I was very lucky with my children , My mother gave me some good advice that she had done with me and my siblings when we were babies... as soon as she came home from hospital she would give us our last feed late at night, put us down to sleep and if we woke up during the night she would check to see if we were ok or if we had a dirty nappy, change it if necessary and go back to bed...if we cried she would let us go till we eventually went to sleep on our own...then she would feed us early in the the morning so it was establishing a night feed and morning feed...most babies after knowing that they are not going to get a feed in the middle of the night will start to sleep through and you can adjust the times that you feed your baby...It is not harmful to let your child cry if there is nothing wrong with him or her. It was a saving grace too me and others I know, Sleep is very important to being able go through the day without getting cranky or making mistakes you normally would not do! And to be the best mum you can be, you need sleep! Good Luck:-)
2007-04-03 16:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by QT 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-07 04:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many people don't think about how other people could be inconvenienced when they break a promise or don't adhere to a deadline. It's your right to be angry. If you need your sleep, go to bed, don't wait up for this fellow. Leave a note on the door with addresses for local hotels where he can bunk down.
2007-04-03 15:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they ran into traffic. Or broke down. Maybe there is a reason they are late. Just go to bed, or lay on the couch and get some sleep, when they get there wake up, let them in, show them where they are sleeping and go to bed. Its one night and Im sure you can catch up on your sleep tomorrow while your little ones are napping.
2007-04-03 15:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sux! I would have told your husband to come home early or not go in to work if "his" frienda are coming over!
Ifeel for you. Im a father of a 28 month old. and me and my wife sitched roles, Im a stay at home dad for a bit, and yup I need my sleep! I cant imagine doing it with two little ones at one time.
People want us to have another one, while my daughter is still young, so they can grow up together.But, its a hassle!
Good luck! and u do have a right to be "Pissed"
2007-04-03 15:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by hot_rican_4_ju 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad, I would make sure the baby gets to bed, and head there myself if I were you, and just leave a note on the door for them telling them to get lost.
2007-04-03 15:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ethernaut 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lock the door, shut off the lights and go to bed. They will then understand inconvenience.
2007-04-03 15:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋