Please be honest, did you like your engagement ring?

Question

When my husband proposed, he didn't have much savings, so he bought me an included diamond on a tiffany setting. I thought the ring was ok but it wasn't my dream engagement ring. It wasn't his either.

Later this year, we will have more money saved, and he is planning to get me a better ring. Please share if you have a similar story!

Do you think it is tacky to replace our engagement ring? Also to those of you who upgraded/replaced your rings, what did you do with the first ring?

We've been married for 2yrs.

Just for the idiotic haters who think I am bitching about my ring - it wasn't my idea to upgrade/replace the ring. It was my husband's. If the ring was the only thing that mattered to me, then I wouldn't have married him.

Don't be judgemental biyatches.

Also, I failed to mention, another reason for the upgrade is because my existing one does not fit anymore.

Answer 1

I love my engagement ring. I love my fiance. It may have been cooler to have a larger stone but I have a very high quality stone that is just over a half a carat, and it is in the platinum that I prefer over gold (he also picked it out on his own which I find really sweet). My fiance shows me he loves me in ways that far out measure any ring he could have ever purchased.

He asked me the other day if I would like a larger stone some day, and I realized that I didn't. I would like to maybe have a nice anniversary ring some day, but I would not want to replace the lovely ring that he worked hard to get me. I do not begrudge anyone that wants to upgrade. It is a personal preference, and if a man and a woman are both cool with it and can afford it, why not?

Answer 2

I loved mine...it was a big honking diamond. However, the band was cheap, so after two years-my husband replaced it. He didn't want a new ring (he had a diamond band he wore on right hand) and now we are replacing that. I think it is okay to replace them unless you have so much sentiment tied up in it you can't bear it. I still have my other ring, I just keep it in the safe. Not because it's expensive, but because I know where it is.

Answer 3

I had a 1/4 ct Marquis cut ring due to limited funds. We replaced it 10 years later w/2 ct Princess Cut Diamond set in platinum w/a 1 ct. eternity anniversary band. He had spent years feeling guilty for having bought me such a small diamond to begin with.

5 years later I received a 2 ct heart-shaped diamond in white gold for my 15th anniversary.

We celebrated our 21st anniversary recently and the only set I wear is that original 1/4 ct diamond w/a simple gold band.
I value it more and if I could only keep 1 of 3 it would be my choice. While I like the other rings it is the first one that has the most sentimental value. He took time to find it and worked twice as hard to earn it since he didn't earn as much in those early years. The promises he made to me were made with that set and he has kept those promises. The other rings were just to salvage his own ego.

Answer 4

While I don't see the big deal in replacing your ring if that's your kind of thing, just remember the ring is just a symbol of your love for each other. Don't focus too much on the material aspects of it. If he can't afford to get you a better one, don't force him to. Just be happy he proposed to you in the first place. I love my engagement and wedding rings because of the reason behind them.

Answer 5

I loved my first engagement ring but I lost it in the ocean when I went surfing and I was really devastated about it. My now husband bought me another one almost like it but not quite. If we're only talking appearances, I liked the first one better but then the ring is just a symbol of our commitment to each other.
Now, whenever I go to the ocean, I take off my wedding ring.

Answer 6

I loved my engagement ring... but then I did pick it out. I can no longer wear mine (since I got pregnant with my first child) but I keep it safely hidden away in the hopes that one day I can wear it again. Even if I didn't like it, I think I would still keep it just because it is special. It is what I got married with. But if you have no emotional attachment to it, sell it or remove the diamond and have it put into something else, a pendant and sell the metal for scrap.

Answer 7

My husband and I got engaged when we were young and we could only afford a tiny engagement ring worth $130-. It was a very sweet ring and I was very proud of it. 15 yrs later...We have just upgraded it to an incredible ring which is just superb. My "real" engagement ring is safely nestled away so if any1 ever steals my new "rock"...they can have it I dont care. Its insured and I will still have my real engagement ring forever. Dont feel guilty. Its called "upgrading". :)

Answer 8

I have a Walmart gold band and a Walmart gold engagement ring with a diamond chip in it! I've been married 20 years and wouldn't trade my $159 set for anything in the world. It's not the monetary value of the rings it is the emotional ties to them. He put these on my finger and they will stay on that finger for the rest of my days in this lifetime and all the others.

Answer 9

I have the same ring I received 22 years ago. I only wear my wedding ring. Save your money for like a down payment on a house you might consider changing the bands, some jewelry stores do that.

Answer 10

The ring doesn't matter (at least not for guys anyways) but as long as you truly love your fiancee with passion and understanding.

Of course, it'd be nice to have an expensive engagement ring for showing off! lol! =)

And NO it's not tacky to replace your engagement ring... it's actually a good thing 'cuz its a sign that your love for one another is "maturing" over the years.

If I would consider replacing mine then I'd probably most likely trade it in and buy a bit more expensive one... but right now I'm on a budget! hehehe!!! =D