Too Small for her?

Question

me and my wife just started having sex last night.. it was both are first times.. the problem is she didn't feel anything during intercourse last night.. am i too small for her? i also heard that it takes time to feel sex and that it needs less wet.. but when i fingered her i made her orgasim... can somebody please help me.. i dont want to have a sex life like this forever because it was not fun with that dissopointing look on her face
Thanks in advance

Answer 1

I can't tell you if this is normal or not or even if this is what your wife experienced, but when my husband and I first had sex, I felt very little. I'm not sure if this was the position we were in, or if I was just so nervous that I forgot to enjoy myself or what, but I do know that the sex has improved a million times since then.

If you feel that you are a little underendowed, try putting a pillow under her bottom if you're having sex missionary style, or let her have top so that she can control how deeply you penetrate and where you rub.

You two are new at this and very few people are amazing at it their first times. My husband and I were awkward and kind of terrible and I felt embarrassed the first few times we had sex, but since then the comfort level between has grown and with it my enjoyment of the intimacy and the sensations. If you two love each other and have a good relationship in which you can communicate (even in bed!), the sex will improve. The most important thing is for the two of you to remember to really talk about what feels good and what doesn't; take the time out to figure out what works for you. Be sure to experiment and just have fun! Sex should be a joyful experience, and so should discovering each other, so keep that in mind and just run with it.

Also remember that very few woman can orgasm through g-spot stimulation alone, and most woman can only orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, so experiment with positions in which either you are rubbing her with your hands or your penis, and I guarantee it will be a much more sexually enjoyable experience for her. Also, sexuality for a woman is much more mental than physical, and that's how women differ from men, so be sure to always make her feel beautiful and comfortable. Take time to give her oral sex, play with her breasts, kiss her neck, anything that is just for her. The more comfortable she is in bed the more likely she is to orgasm.

There is no such thing as two people being incompatible in bed, just for some people it takes a little more time to figure each other out. Just be patient and it will be worth it.

Answer 2

You are probably at least 6" up to 9" it could be too small and the bigger the better. It depends on what you are doing to make it wet? don't finger her first. Use some tunge on her and clean it up a little, LOL seriously it's probably going to take a few times for her to get use to you, but there are always ways to make her happy. let her do you she might like it and it might really make her get so h*t she wants it imediately and then gets off I don't know this is a personal thing if you were not married to her I could probably show you better then I can tell you, LOL just joking

Answer 3

There is just no way that about 70% of the women out there are going to orgasm while having intercourse with you. It would be unusual to find a woman who did have an orgasm while having intercourse with you. That's just how it is.

Oh, and "less wet" == painful! Sex can always use "more wet".

Answer 4

Some advice here, it takes alot of stimulation for a woman to have an orgasm. She has to be "in the mood" and the environment needs to be stress and distraction free. Romance her, use alot of foreplay but do not touch the clitoris, you can touch all around and do your thing, that will make her like go crazy inside. Even with that, when you are having intercourse it can take up to 20 minutes of stimulation to bring her to an orgasm. It is much harder for women to have orgasms than men, trust me. Good luck hun, and congratulations on your marriage. :D

Answer 5

The first few times probably won't be great, esp. if you're both inexperienced. She needs to be well lubricated. If she isn't, it will be painful for her and I know you don't want that for her. If you're doing missionary position, try having her masterbate at the same time. Females take longer to orgasm, but her masturbating at the same time seems to speed that up...at least it has with me and it's really awesome! Females often don't get that much out of intercourse. We usually get more out of clitoral stimulation so by her masturbating during intercourse, that makes it so much better!! It has for me anyway. By masturbating, I mean her stimulating her clitoris during intercourse.

Answer 6

Yes, too much lubrication could reduce the sensation. The fact that she could have an orgasm with your fingers (or her fingers for that matter) means she is not frigid. And I am assuming that your member is bigger than your finger!

No, you are not too small. Stop worrying, since worry and anxiety actually makes your performance much worse!

Ask her to come on your top and guide the process. The woman on top position delays your ejaculation and will thus give her time to come. Give a few trials and errors to each other before deciding there is a problem and going to doctor.

Answer 7

the trick is to tease not to get her to go all the way.make her get to the point of orgasam and then stop tone it down make out and ravish her like you love her and want to make love to her.she should be glad she didnt feel anything if it was her first time! besides if you cant get the groove on with what you got then theres all sorts of creams,pills and pumps you can get to make your member bigger! i bealeave if your lacking you can make it up in other ways anyhoo,havnt you heard the saying its not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean!haha by the way congrats for you both being able to wait!and the sex will get better its never so good the first time! you guys just keep exploring and find what you like and what position feels the best,ect.happy hunting!!;)

Answer 8

easy big fella, i take it your both young,girls seldom feel anything for a time females peak about age 40 while males are about 18,i dont think its your size, females vagina only have feeling the first two or three inchesa little tongue goes a looooong way,lightly lick and suck her clitoris, until shes ooozing wetand starts to buck,once shes orgasamed 4 or 5 time then climb onor roll her over doggie style this way is a better chance of massaging her g spot, take her sloow and easy make it last a couple hours til your both comfortable, growing together will mak e it fun

Answer 9

i find it hard to believe this was her first time then. regardless, the closer you are to having her orgasm, the smaller the vagina gets, so chances are the more foreplay, the better chance she will be able to feel you. a woman can accomodate...trust me....however, dont feel that large penises are worthy-i'd rather have average or below because you can have more fun with the average or less than that of large or huge!

please don't view sex as the most important part of your life. sure, it's fun, exciting, makes you feel good, but whats more important is trust and respect and love.

you guys will figure it out soon enough....

best of luck to you!

Answer 10

A large number of women do not have an orgasm with straight up sex. They need direct clitoral stimulation. Try different positions that would stimulate her G-spot. Your finger is able to bend is better able to find and stimulate her G-spot better than a penis.