met this guy last december..he works at the gym I frequent..and he seemed really nice..and he told me when I initally met him. that if I ever wanted to go to a movie or hang out to call him, but we ended up not really following through with that..so we exercised together..and he just could not stop smiling..so I'm thinking when a man acts like that he definelty likes her..plus he asked me to work out with him/..so there was some intrest but when I called him to go out to go get starbucks he told me he was busy and he would let me know..but he never did..so finally a month passes after he I asked him to go to starbucks and I see him yesterday for the first time in two months..and he;s grinning..and we conversate for a little while, and he explains to me that he's been stressed out with alot of things..and he aplogizes..and he says"I think we should go get that starbucks you were talking about"...and he tells me to keep saturday open..should I give him another chance? And if not why?
2007-04-03 12:18:51 · 24 answers · asked by Sweetladi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you should give him another chance....Maybe he really was busy when you asked him to go to starbucks. Maybe he has been really stressed out and thought he may be lousy company for you. Go with him......see where it heads...nothing ventured, nothing gained and if you like him, then go for it girl. Its not like you are inviting him to marry you or anything.....its a date.......enjoy yourself.
2007-04-03 12:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance - he's the person who remembered the invitation to Starbucks. The only thing that bothers me is that he said to keep Saturday open. If Saturday turns out to be a day that he didn't call, I'd be annoyed and think he just likes to string girls along. If someone says something like that, test the seriousness of his intentions by asking for a time and place in a Starbucks to meet. Then they have to follow through.
2007-04-03 12:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give the guy a chance! Maybe something was going on in his life at that point that he couldn't handle a new relationship.
If you are scared about opening up to him, go get Starbucks as friends! Alot of relationships that last start out as friends first- you already at least know that the two of you can stand each other for a little while- so hey why not? What have you got to lose?
2007-04-03 13:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by julie a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he sounds nice and who knows what he may have been dealing with. He apologized and it seems that he is really into you. If I were you I would just go for it. This may be your Mr. Right and now he has the time to prove that he could be that person in your life. Go out with him on Saturday and just have fun it appears all you think about is him even after 2 months not seeing him you got all giddy and so did he. That is a sign from your body and spirit to take a chance on this guy.
God Bless and Best Wishes
You go girl!
2007-04-03 12:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always give love another chance, in whatever form it takes. You should also give your heart time to heal. If you jump from one relationship to the next, you'll never recover. Take time for yourself. Figure out what you want and need from a romantic partner, and don't settle for less. Make sure honesty and commitment are up there on that list too.
2016-05-14 17:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by brianna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"keep Saturday open?" what the hell does that mean? Yes, give him a chance but don't be too available to him. If you go ahead and keep Saturday open and he doesn't follow through, he's playing games with you. I know this is speculation, but he probably has a girlfriend. I'm just getting the girlfriend vibe from what you told me. It sounds like maybe he's on the fence with whether he should cheat or not. But, give him the chance to prove what I'm saying is wrong!
2007-04-03 12:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rairia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well have just been busy. Perhaps he was in another dating relationship at the time that has now ended...who knows? The point is that now he is ready and if you still like him, go for it. There's no harm in going to get a cup of coffee. If it's still bothering you, casually bring it up. If you don't like his answers then you can consider if you want to further a dating relationship with him. Now if he ditches you on Saturday, that's another story. I wouldn't waste my time at that point because that could be an indication of things to come.
2007-04-03 12:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think that you should give him another chance. My reason is because he could have been genuine when he said that he had a lot of things to take care of. Guys they don't really tell you that they are still dealing with problems which sometimes have to deal with girls or even family stuff. They tend to feel vulnerable and I think that this is one of the things that they hate more than a chick flick movie. They hate letting you see their softer side as in hurt.
Plus its good that now you are coming into his life when everything seems to be clearing up for him so that there would be no kind of block or distractions. With you he could be himself and he would know what he wants from you and with you and you would know what to expect from him and let him know what you require.
Go out have fun with this guy and see what he has to offer and in turn let him know what he has been missing out on.
2007-04-03 12:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well certainly he has all the power in this 'relationship' keeps you hanging for a whole month for starbucks? you not only asked him first- but he kept you waiting. he is playing you like a puppet. nobody is that busy even doctors have more time that that. who does he think he is? no, this is all a game he played--do not give him another chance, let him come begging you,
2007-04-03 12:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he may of had a girlfriend in December so he would flirt with you when he could, but wasn't free to go out. If you want to give him a shot then go for it.
2007-04-03 12:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋