There is this girl who hangs out with us now. Shes bad news, but how am I supposed to make my friend see that, when shes already joining her? I tried to tell her all the stuff this girl does, but she doesnt believe me. I dont want to find new friends, but what am i supposed to do?
2007-04-03 11:06:08 · 13 answers · asked by sam_help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we've been friends since we were 2.
2007-04-04 09:42:39 · update #1
If you follow these exact instructions, everything will be okay.
First, walk up to yaour friend and say these exact words, "(His/her name), I am not lying to you about (The girl). If you think I'm lying, then you aren't a good friend. I thought I could trust you. What happened to our friendship? I'm through with you! If you won't beleive me, then I guess you don't want to be my friend, and you want to cross over to the bad side." After that, walk away like you're proud of what you said, but still dissapointed in your friend.
Next, buy a video camera a record proof (secretly) of what you said about that girl being a bad person.
Last, show the recording to your friend and say why you still want to be his friend.
I wish you the best of luck.
If you need to contact me, well, you probably know how!
2007-04-03 11:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your friend is going through a rebellion stage right now.When one goes through that stage in life they tend to start by finding people who aren't exactly on the straight and narrow.I guess when a person rebels they tend to admire others who are already on their path of rebellion.
Its hard to say what would help you as you are on a different path and recognize that their path isn't quite a good one to follow.Sometimes the best and only thing you can do is keep being a good friend.And attempt to be the voice of her consciense.You may not always sway her to make a better choice or to do the right thing at the moment.But thats okay because you may sway her at the right moment and at the right time.
You don't have to follow them or do what they do in this instance you want to be a leader and set the right example as well as set the higher standard.So when they do something you don't approve of be above it,if it is something that may cause harm be the one to right the wrong.The better example you set and the less you conform to their rebellious acts,the more they will take notice.And when that happens it will show you what kind of an impact you are making on them...
I hope This Advice Helps,
M.G
2007-04-03 18:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has to make her own decisions - you cant force her to dislike someone else. You told her and now she will either see that youre right - or join the bad news gang...It's up to you to decide to keep her as a friend or not. You dont have to hang out with her when she is with the other girl. Let her know that you really dislike the way the girl carries herself and disrespects herself and others and that when your friend wants to hang out with you - it will have to be just you two.
2007-04-03 18:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by Handbag Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, pretty soon this girl's true colours would show, and your friend would know that what you were trying to tell her was true. The fact that this friend doesn't believe means that she they have their own interest in this girl and would be blinded by the real person they are inside. Just give your friend enugh time to see this person for who she really is, in the mean while just hang out with the friends you like to be around, and pretty soon your friend would come to you.
2007-04-03 18:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Eliza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay close to your friend don't let this girl push you away from your Mate .
you have got to stop telling her about all the bad things this other girl has done
(she'll just think your jealous or making it up )
let her find out her self
2007-04-03 18:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by theslutkiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this Her over Me you best friend or some snobby new girl . Can u tell me how long your guys have been friends
2007-04-03 18:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you told your friends what was wrong with this girl and they didn't listen i wouldn't worry about them, just stay away from this girl as much as you can....if you really want to help your friends know about this girl, try to catch her doing something bad and then they will believe you
2007-04-03 18:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going through the same thing it sucks so bad but you have other friends just hang out with them
2007-04-03 18:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by S.Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've a similar situation....what i'm trying to do is see if, when the new girl ain't around, try 2 let your old friend catch her doin somthing that she shouldn't. so far i've pretty much got my friend convinced that her new friend ain't good. good luck hope it all works out.
2007-04-03 18:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by backward23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is right. your only in school for a short period of your life. don't ruin it by hanging out with people that are bad news.
2007-04-03 18:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋