You should actually go after what you want, and if what you want is a beautiful woman with brains to match you should seek it. Beauty is after all up to the person who is making the decision. I find Tori Amos to be the most beautiful woman in the world and yet many guys don't find her attractive at all. You should go after what you want because why would you spend the rest of your life with someone who is not what you want. This isn't to say have outrageously high standards that will most likely not be met, but do not settle on things that are to you must haves when looking for a spouse.
2007-04-03 12:59:45
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you should be picky to an extent, but not so much that if something that can be great comes along even if its not fully what your looking for you dont give it a chance, and see if it can turn into what you really want. You have to have standards when your dating, but also know that its ok to be with someone who isnt fully up to those standards as long as they meet the important ones like they are faithful, and treat you good, etc. If your too picky, and dont let certain things slide, I dont think you can ever really find real happyness. What you want most of the time changes with age, and if you dont ease up on some standards your only making it harder for yourself to find who you really are great with.
2007-04-03 12:06:34
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answered by ? 4
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I think people should be picky but NOT extremely picky...if you're not picky then you'll end up with someone who you're really not compatible with and this can lead to a divorce...I'm not saying that divorces don't happen when people are picky...but I'm just saying...why settle for less when you know what you want?
I'm not saying that you should be crazy and have someone down to what eye color they should have, how much money they should make, what's their shirt size or bra size...that's just really too excessive and crazy...but you shouldn't have to end up settling for someone you don't want cause sooner or later you'll end up trading him or her in for someone you actually do want.
2007-04-03 11:28:04
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answered by Lucky 5
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picky to a point, but tolerant because we are all human, I know some people who are very unrealistic about what they expect from a spouse, but I would never settle
2007-04-03 11:13:14
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answered by d☻min☺ 5
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I think it would be smarter to actually KNOW what they really want or need. I had a type of woman to whom I was strongly attracted but MARRIED a woman who has almost nothing in common with my "type"
I couldn't be happier.
Point is you don't know what you want until you find it, and THAT takes time.
2007-04-03 11:09:38
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answered by Matticus Kole 4
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Being picky would only put divorce lawyers on the streets. Is that something you want to do?
2007-04-03 11:07:57
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answered by Dr. E. Bunny A.K.A. Andy. 7
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I think you have to be careful and find someone who matches you in the mind. Someone who thinks like you and matches your intellect. All the other parts just naturally fit.
I'd never settle...I did it before and it was disaster.
2007-04-03 11:10:32
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answered by Anonymous
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You should be picky, but not unreasonable. Mr. Perfect does not exist. You're going to have to accept some flaws. It's just up to you how big of a flaw you're willing to take on.
2007-04-03 11:06:21
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answered by Jen F 5
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well, I think you should just marry the person you love.
you don't need to be picky or not picky, you just need to date around till you find the right person.
2007-04-03 11:07:33
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answered by Anonymous
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I can speak from experience--choose wisely and be very picky
2007-04-03 11:12:43
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answered by eeyoree rocks2003 7
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